“Importance of feeling connection- how the feeling connection to…”

Importance of feeling connection- how the feeling connection to something which is higher than you nullifies all the constant harassment you go through from your body and mind. Please understand, just before the satsang I was reading a question from a devotee. The person is telling Swamiji after all a physical pain is so solid it constantly reminds itself. It is so strong. How to un-clutch from it? It constantly reminds itself to us. Understand there are problems which may not be solved by un-clutching, will be solved by feeling connection.

That is why I always warn you, people with whom you feel connected, you should be very careful. If you are friendly with a person depressed, I tell you, knowingly or unknowingly that person will vomit that depression on you. If somebody is depressed boycott that person. No I am giving you as a spiritual instruction. Don’t ever think you will show and shower your compassion on that person, shower your love on that person, get that person out of depression, try; you will only become dirty and come back. You are not that strong. If you are that strong then you don’t even need to talk to the person, your presence will get that person out of depression.

No I am telling you really because lot of this effort of getting the other person out of depression goes on all over. I wanted all of you to know, the problems which you can’t heal, the pains which you can’t get out by un-clutching, get out only by feeling connection with the something higher than you either God or Guru and ensure that you don’t have feeling connection, you are not entertaining friendliness with people who are depressed or the patterns of depression. See the people with patterns of depression are arrogant, I tell you. It is not ignorance or innocence. It is a crime. It’s a crime, arrogant. Because they are arrogant they will naturally infiltrate you even if you spend little time with them. I always warn.

There is beautiful teaching from Sri Ramakrishna. I always warn the disciples, warn the followers; if your spouse is in depression don’t try to get her out by yourself. If your friend is in depression don’t try to get him out by yourself. He will only put that depression mental set up in you. Help them to feel connected to something which is higher than them to God or Guru. Stop with that, you don’t try, you don’t meddle with it. One more thing especially a man trying to get a women out of depression or a woman trying to get a man out of depression is very, very dangerous because when you sit with woman or a man, when a man sits with woman or woman sits with man, understand even if the age difference is 50, a 15 year old boy is sitting with 65 year old lady, I tell you your Mooladhara will be open. By the very biology your mooladhara will be open. If the 65 year old lady put some idea to you when you are in the mood of receptive, you are destroyed.

Never ever sit with the person who is depressed. Never ever try to get the person who is depressed out of depression. All you can do is connect that person with the higher source Guru or God and move out. If you try to clean the drainage you will become dirty by getting into it. The only way to clean the drainage is put the pipe and put the motor. Let the machines do the job. I have seen so many fellows.

Ramakrishna used to tell this. Even in the name of compassion or helping or assisting….you see, Ramakrishna had one disciple, Yogananda, he is small boy. One elderly lady around 45 or 50, she used to be always depressed and this boy will try his best to get her out of depression by telling whatever ideas he learnt from Sri Ramakrishna or trying with all the ideas he learnt. She will also treat him like a son. Ramakrishna calls and tells, no, no, this is the way it will start; you don’t know how it will destroy you. Her pattern of depression will simply infiltrate you and not only that, this sympathy which you can’t help will extend to any extent, any level and you will take up this as your mission; getting her out of depression as your mission. With that you will fall into the depression. Ramakrishna says very clearly. Then Yogananda says no, no, no, I only see her as my mother. Ramakrishna says no. I know how the mind works.

In Chaitanya’s history, Sri Krishna Chaitanya a great Master from west Bengal, in his biography one of his close disciple, he kicks him out of his sangha just for the only one reason he was sitting and talking with a woman, that’s it, nothing else. He investigated; he said no, no, no she is in depression. I wanted to help her out. Chaitanya said Mahaprabhu said ‘No don’t do. Put her directly in touch with Guru or God. You leave, don’t do.’ But this fellow did not listen. He said his compassion is more powerful than the Guru. In 2 days he kicked them out and in a month both of them had….. started having affair. In a year both of them killed each other. Please understand killed each other. She gave poison to him and without knowing he has take the poisoned food, he has murdered her. She gave poisoned food to him. He ate but he did not know he ate the poisoned food. He was waiting to kill her. He killed her then he died.

The depression mental set up is worse than a snake, run away from it; because it will penetrate you very mildly only. It will be shared, dumped and these depressed fellows are also so arrogant, they don’t want to be all alone in depression. They want friends, they want friendliness. They want more and more support for their depression. What will be the reason for the depression especially in spiritual communities…fighting with sangha, fighting with Master, fighting with dharma; that’s all. Fighting with buddha, dhamma, sangha, that’s all. That’s the only reason for depression.

Arrogance! You will justify your fight. You will justify it in a very logical way, humble arrogant way. I know it is my arrogance. It is my ego. Then why, why it should be all… only one solution for everybody? Why can’t we have different, different solution for different, different people? When you know you are arrogant and depressed, get out. What right you have to judge the methods used by the Master? Understand depressed fellow is not just sick fellow, he is a sin fellow.

The only way for that, extraordinary pains, the pains you can’t handle by un-clutching can be healed by this beautiful word matparah. Bhagwan is using this word as a technique. He spoke about un-clutching in last few verses. Now he is telling whatever can’t be healed by the un-clutching the only way is matparah, Tani sarvani samyamya yukta asita matparah,Vashe hi yasyendriyani tasya pragya pratishtita.

Whether you believe it or not whether you want to understand or not, you are a person, you are a individual soul reflecting pure consciousness and you have to get up. That’s all. You have to wake up thats all.

Let you all achieve, experience, live, express, radiate and share the eternal bliss, Nithyananda.

Thank you.