“Desire is nothing but feeling the other side is green in your heart.”

Desire is nothing but feeling the other side is green in your heart. See ‘YOU’ the individual consciousness, whatever you claim yourself as yourself, that identity; you are established in your Self. Unfortunately instead of looking your own side and realizing it is green, you look at the other side. Looking at the other side is desire. Looking at the other side is desire, feeling the other side is green is greed. When man renounces the feeling ‘the other side is green’ the desire to look at the other side, he delights himself through his natural temperament, then he is said to be in an unclutched state.

There is a beautiful story Bhagawan Ramana Maharishi describes - Dog caught hold of a dry bone; biting, biting, biting that dry bone. That fellow did not get any flesh or blood out of that bone but that bone has poked into the teeth of the dog. From his own teeth blood has started coming, from his own gums blood has started coming. The dog was tasting the blood which was coming from his own gum but he was thinking the blood is coming from the dry bone. Exactly from anywhere you think joy is coming, from anywhere, whether it is from a celebration or from a person or from a object; from anywhere you think joy is coming - all that place, person, object; all of them are just dry bone. It is you who put the joy on it forcibly and try to squeeze the joy out of the dry bone forcibly.

You first superimpose joy on Diwali day then you try to squeeze that day to get the joy out of it. You try to superimpose joy on some person maybe your wife or husband or a son or daughter or father, mother, brother. Please understand all human beings; when I say all I mean all. All of you fellows are cunning fellows. Never ever think you feel responsible or love for anybody. Don’t tell me a lie. I have heard enough of these lies. You force your joy on them and try to squeeze them to get your joy back. In this struggle the to and fro movement you call it as ‘I feel responsible for them’ ‘I love them’. Hell with your love hell with your feeling responsible. All cheating game!

I tell you in the whole world there is no such thing as relationship exists. Either it is social convenience or legal compulsion. There is no relationship…... See ultimately you force your joy on them, you project and you try to squeeze….hhhhh hhhhh hhhh. I have seen in my village Tiruvannamalai, they will squeeze the sugarcane and take a juice and out of the juice they will make jaggery. My grandfather’s land, farmhouse, every vacation we will all go there and after they do the harvesting of sugarcane they will have a two roller and end of the roller there will be one stick and two bulls will be tied in that and that fellows will go on be rotating, rounding, drrrr drrrr drrrrr and the sugarcanes will be sent between the rollers and the juice will come one side. Then they will boil that juice and make jaggery. Exactly you are doing the same thing.

All relationships or whatever you call as relationships, you put all of them into that roller. Like a sugarcane squeezing you squeeze rrrrrr rrrrr rrrr. All the fight which goes on in your house, in your family, with your team, everything is this sugarcane squeezing sound only. Now we have that land; that land is donated to us by my grandfather….. and it is a big fun for us and that poor bulls who are pulling that…. in front of their head there will be a small stick they will tie and there will one projection stick in that, the green will be hung; some grass or green leaves. This fellow will think that grass or green leaves is in front of his eyes so he will just jump to catch that. Naturally that will also go little further. Just like that jumping, jumping, jumping he will be going round and round and round and round. I can tell you exactly this is the way whole humanity is functioning.

The moment you understand there is no relationship exists you will start pouring your love. I tell you this is the exact right software for living with people on planet earth. I am giving you the exact, exact software, exact programming. First realize there is no such thing as relationship in the planet earth. Everything is contract trrr trrrr trrrr. Everything is geometry; square, rectangle, circle, triangle, plus, minus; clean. Only those experiences and feelings, memories, interactions happened beyond business should be looked with lot of gratitude and respect; not as regular lifestyle. The moment you try to say ‘ehhhh for last ten years this fellow brought me a rose flower every morning and today he did not bring’, over! The whole joy is over. Now you reduced bull to bullock, love to marriage, honey to honeymoon.

Understand when you realize whole life is contract I tell you, you will have more love oozing out for everybody, everything. Even while you eat some sweet, after three sweets if you take the sweet for granted, ‘ehhh this fellow is supposed to make this experience in my tongue and he says no c’mon I will not do it’ you feel like vomiting. Go for 5th or 6th sweet you will go for vomiting; you will feel like vomiting. Now you are married to the sweet. Earlier it was love affair. Now the marriage has happened! Understand see I am talking about very subtle point, sacred secrets, very subtle sacred secrets. Catch it. It can transform the way your brain cheats you.

Bhagawan is revealing a powerful sacred secret in this one verse; a very powerful sacred secret. Understand this one truth - how you project joy on people, you project joy on objects, you project joy on particular time, you project joy on place, you project joy on everything and try to squeeze them. It a very bad business, understand. You give one crore worth of joy, you project on them you dump on them. When you squeeze you get only 20 paise.

No really that is why I am telling keep all the one crore as investment inside you. Do not project your love, your joy on somebody expecting you will get it back. See if you give it without any expectation or you are very clear ‘ehhh life is business but here I am showing my love. I somehow feel that there were some moments this guys had such a sacred sweet feelings with me, so I am reciprocating that’ Or ‘I don’t even bother whether they had it or not, I am having it. I feel like sharing it.’ Over! If you live with this clarity I tell you your home will be a sweet home.

Grihastha - a ideal householder life is realizing there is no relationship.