“1. Swamiji, can you please talk about NewgeN?”

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1. Swamiji, can you please talk about NewgeN?

How I want new generation to be! Rather, I am going to say what kind of new generation I want to create because I don’t stop with what I want to be, I just create it! I never stop with the idea I want that, I want this and expect somebody else to take up that responsibility. No. I create.

I want NewgeN to be completely stable and experientially established - about their identity with themselves, about their identity with the people with whom they are living, about their identity with the human society and the universe. New generation should be very clear about themselves - what they want to do, what they feel like doing. Problem is, many time they know what they feel like doing, but what to do and how to do it they don’t know. What you want to do, how you are going to do and what you are going to do - the whole thing should be aligned. New generation should be very responsible about what they are creating around themselves, not just constantly fighting with others or fighting with themselves. Not just constantly cribbing about the world. See, modern youth means, constantly complaining, deeply dissatisfied. Feeling miserable, unfortunate about the whole world. That is what has become modern-day youth. See the common picture of modern day youth – depressed, drugs, dying! Youth was never in such a mess earlier on planet earth. Because all the mechanisms which gives little bit of training for the youth from young age is completely broken. The unfortunate thing is, you guys stand as policy orphans, identity orphans, cultural orphans. The fortunate thing is, because of this you can become enlightened! The unfortunate thing - because all the training mechanisms have broken, you become policy orphans, cultural orphans, identity orphans. You stand in front of huge temples and you do not even know why it is standing there, what it means, what it offers to society. The other day, one youngster came to me and was telling about some problem. I asked him, where you are from? He said, Madurai south side. I asked him, where are you in Madurai? He gave an internet café’s name and said, the house next to that. I could not understand. I asked, are you saying you are on the street where a huge board saying ‘South Tower’ is there on the temple tower? He said he has never seen that board! But he has seen the internet café and knows about that. He has seen the small internet café board, but he never looked up and saw the huge board of the temple tower. I felt, Oh God! Does this fellow know that the whole Pandya Kingdom built that temple over 500 years? If a whole kingdom took 500 years, then the whole kingdom was so devoted to it!

(The temple board Swamij is talking about is shown on screen)

This is exactly what I am talking about! He has never seen this board, and he is living there for at least last five years. The new generation has become identity-less, cultural orphans. On one side, it is unfortunate that you become cultural orphans. On the other side, it is fortunate, because you can easily be led to enlightenment, you can move to enlightenment.

Basically, eN-Living is NewgeN living. Enlightened living is NewgeN living. All over the country, I want Akhaadas to happen – means, the place where people practice the techniques for yogic body and vedic mind. Understanding the relationship issues. Not just relationship with people, relationship with the Whole. NewgeN is my only hope! Next generation should be new generation, or it is going to be degeneration! Understand, if next generation is not new generation, humanity is not going to have any more generations, because we have reached the possibility of peak of destruction. If one mad person becomes the head of one atomic countr, that is enough. Humanity will disappear! Planet earth won’t be there. Ball is missing from the court! If you want to keep this beautiful planet for the next generation, next generation has to become new generation. We have to become Yogis – Natha Yogis. Natha yogis means, having yogic body and vedic mind. Human civilization has to understand its responsibility towards your happiness.

Please understand, your happiness is not just a choice - you can have it or you may not have it. No. Your happiness, you being productive, is an important element for the humanity now. Your depression has cost too much for the country. 2-3 misguided youths can cause so much chaos to society. You can see how many young boys from some of the fundamentalist organizations are being used as suicide bombers to create so much chaos. I really cannot understand! When it comes to positive work, how disorganized, lacking, yawning, lazy we are. But when it comes to destroying others, I don’t know how these youngsters get power. If these same youngsters, instead of dedicating their life to killing people, had dedicated it to serving people, they would have created a huge social organization where they will serve the society. I was so shocked at how so much of sacrifice is misused, abused by the fundamental organizations.

Somehow, the word next gen itself has come to mean depressed, fighting, addicted to something. That is the image getting built. Next gen should become NewgeN. NewgeN means young, energetic, well-built, with pure awareness, joy, radiating bliss and raising the whole team around you also to bliss.

I will continuously define this concept of NewgeN. Just like how I go on defining living enlightenment throughout my Satsangs, same way I will go on defining NewgeN.

2) Dear Swamiji, in yesterday’s satsang, you spoke about live-in relationship as compulsory before marriage. Suppose after one year, if I don’t feel compatible with my boyfriend, should I dump him? How many men will I ‘try out’ like this before finding the right life partner? What is the solution Swamiji? - Devaangi, Allahabad, Bharat

Devaangi, the moment you are not ready to take the responsibility, I think Manu is right for you. Don’t even see the fellow before marriage. Cover the face, tie the knot and in the dim light of first night, see the guy’s face. Come on, one side you want freedom, other side you don’t want to take responsibility. Go on trying till 40, or take responsibility to settle with one person in one year. See, use this one year not to decide, should I dump him or live with him?, but to make yourself settle with him and make the other person accept you. That is why I used the word tapas. Do this as a tapas rather than in the trying-out mode. I am not asking you to try out. I am asking you to do this as tapas, where you are constantly working on yourself. If you are working on yourself, naturally the first one itself will click, at the most second. You don’t need to be constantly trying out.

See, even for sannyas I tell people, try out for one year, I will see later on. After all, Sanyas you can give up any moment. There is nothing wrong. After 5 years you can give up. No problem. If you drop your Sanyas, nobody is going to be offended, because it is between you and you. I don’t give you Sanyas, I only ask you to take it. If you see in my initiation, I will keep it at my feet and say, you take it and you prove that you can live it. Till now I have not given it with my own hands to even one person. Only to my father I gave, that too after death - because after death he cannot drop it!

In modern day you guys have become so waaack! Mood-swingy! That is the right word. Vivekananda very clearly says – how a monkey which has drank arrack, has been bitten by scorpions and is possessed by ghost will behave, your mind is exactly like that! You want to neither give up your freedom nor take the responsibility. Don’t go on asking me solution for every small point, so that later on you can blame me! No. I can give only the option, you will have to make decisions.

2. I love my boyfriend a lot, but sometimes he becomes verbally and emotionally abusive. How do I respond to him? I don’t want to give him up. – Diana, Brazil

Diana, first thing: when you love him, you will be easily able to inspire him to look in. Inspire him to understand that abusing verbally and emotionally is a wrong pattern. It is neither mental disorder nor complete health. Wrong pattern. Don’t make it as mental disorder. Then you will be in a bigger guilt. Wrong pattern. Make him understand it is a wrong pattern. Once he understands it is a wrong pattern, he will give it up or find a method of giving up. Make him understand it is a wrong pattern. Maybe you tell him that provoking him is a wrong pattern you have. Being provoked is a wrong pattern he has. Both of you decide to give up the patterns. I think, when you love somebody, you will be able to sit with him and make him understand. He is not enlightened, so he cannot say, I will be what I am, so you surrender! So he must be ready to work with you and come down to your level. Diana, make him understand it is just a wrong pattern. Nothing more than a pattern. You also look deep, you will also understand exactly how provoking you can be. I know women – God! Make him understand, being provoked is a wrong pattern. You also understand that provoking him is a wrong pattern you are carrying. When both of you decide to drop the patterns, life becomes spontaneous living.

3. I recently got married and had a good relationship with my in-laws. As time passed, things slowly changed and I can see changes in my mother-in-law’s attitude towards me. How can I ensure that the relationship stays on good terms? - Sita Venkat, Mumbai

First thing, Sita - the most difficult thing on planet earth is to maintain relationship with mother-in-law, especially Bharatn mother in law! It is almost like thes dark magicians maintaining relationship with bhootas! Neither you can give up, nor you can completely maintain. You need to maintain, but cannot maintain. Anyhow, I will give you some practical suggestions. Try if these suggestions work with your mother-in-law or not.

See, naturally a mother-in-law thinks of holding whatever she has and retiring. Her life is retired, settled. But a daughter-in-law needs to think of high achieving, creating. Naturally the clash will be too much. So try to spend time with your mother-in-law. Talk, talk, talk, make her understand you are only going to add to her security, you are not going to add insecurity to her. You are only going to add security to her.

Also, look in. You also may be feeling that your honeymoon is over with your in-laws. Understand, honeymoon just does not happen with your husband and wife. As time passes, the feeling goes away even with your in-laws. Look where you are losing the newness of relationship, where the other person is losing the newness of relationship. When the newness of relationship is getting lost, you always feel the other person as threat. This is the basic secret of relationships. When you are afraid of somebody, be very clear, that person is also afraid of you. Give the felling that you will not harm that person, you will see, your fear will be cleared. Abhayam sarva bhootebhyo - when you give security to her that you are only going to add to her life, then naturally your insecurity will be cleared.

Today we will have Esoteric Evenings series. Every day we will be having the esoteric evening series. I will start talking about the Aghoris and Yogis who live without food and sleep.

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