“Q\&A_Get Out of Corporate Compassion”

Q\&A_Get Out of Corporate Compassion

Sunday, 08 April 12

Transcript in English

Q: How do we build the consideration of social return into every conversation and every decision at every level in the organization? - Judie Smith, Paris

Swamiji: Judie Smith – look inside. What is social return?

It is nothing but looking at the life with a larger picture. Understand, see if you build your house,you call it as selfishness. If you build the road, you call it as social return. But you don’t understand without the road, house is useless. So what is social return? Nothing but looking at life beyond 120 degrees. See 120 degree is the normal vision. If you look at the life 240 degree or 360 degree, that is social return. Nothing else. So don’t think social return is some great compassionate, sacrificing, serving, great selfless attitude. No. Relax. First thing, understand, thinking with the consideration of social return is intelligent way of thinking. It is intelligence - which makes you consider social return. It is not morality. It is not religious quality. It is not ethics. Nothing. It is just intelligence. Learn to look at every contribution of your life with the whole picture. For example, if you are a manager in a company, try to understand the whole responsibility of the company towards humanity. What this company is supposed to contribute to the humanity. Have the whole picture and fit yourself with it comfortably. Have this same attitude in every decision. Then, naturally whole company will have this same attitude towards the society, that’s it. Understand, consideration of social return is not some sacrifice, service or ethics. Why don’t you understand? It is just intelligence. Many times, you think consideration of social return is something like you do a big service, favour. No. Maybe you can use that word to market yourself. I call it corporate compassion. New word I am creating. What is the corporate compassion, you know? You shave his head, take his hair, sell that and don’t even give him little oil for the head and you say 'I shaved you, because only then dandruff will go from you! It's a treatment for dandruff.' And that poor fellow believes it. That is what I call corporate compassion. Please understand, consideration of social return – the very word shows you are also from the pattern of corporate compassion. No. Compassion should be very raw, pure, innocent. I tell you - raw, pure, innocent compassion is intelligence. When your compassion expresses in its pure, raw form innocently, it is tremendous intelligence. What do you mean by saying the word, consideration of social return? No. The word seems to be like a big sacrifice. I tell you - looking at the larger picture and working, considering the social return is an intelligence decision, it is not compassion decision. Judie Smith, the whole organization needs to understand social consideration is intelligence decision. Please understand decision of your intelligence and not the decision of your heart. Because you think it is decision related to heart, you still have oscillation - No, no, should I do it? how much I should do it? How many rupees I should do it? how many lakhs I should spend? No. social consideration is the decision from intelligence, not decision from heart. The whole - how this whole. Each company is a whole which is supposed to fit into the hole of the whole. The whole has many holes. In each hole, each company as a whole should fit in. How as a whole you are going to fit with the whole. A boss is expected to feel how he should be knowing the whole purpose of the organization and the responsibility of the organization. Same way if the whole team understands the purpose of the organization and responsibility of the organization, that itself is enough. It is enough. Nothing else is required. Understand, the enthusiasm, energy and experience of larger vision, larger responsibility itself is enough to make you do the decisions based on consideration of social return. You don’t need to infuse compassion. Because, intelligence itself will make you do every conversation, every decision at every level with the consideration of social return. You don’t need to do anything separate. Next question. Q: Swamiji, I have started Ajapa Japa of Guru mantra. Should I continue to do the japa during satsang time also? – Indra, Portland Swamiji: Indra, first thing - if you are not sleeping in the Satsang time, you can don’t need to do Ajapa japa. Only if you are feeling sleepy, getting distracted, not able to absorb the silence I am radiating in the morning Satsang. Everyday my morning satsangs are Upanishads – sitting with the master. Listen to the gaps I give between the words more attentively than the words I utter. Through the words I utter, I make your inner space silent; through the gaps I am giving, I make your inner space awakened. Through the words I make you silent, through my silence I make you awakened! Please understand- my silence awakens you, words silences you. My words are meant to create silence in your inner space. My presence is meant to awaken your inner space. So please understand- Satsang time is the time you absorb the presence intensely, beautifully. So try just sitting. Nothing else. Don’t do Ajapa Japa. Only if you are not able to sit, you are agitated for some reason, feeling sleepy, tired, then use ajapa japa as a technique to make you sit awake. I will not recommend ajapa japa during the satsang. During the satsang, sit imbibing this timeless space, allowing the Upanishad to happen, allowing these great spiritual experiences to go in. Understand, remember this one truth for today. I speak to bring silence to you, I am silent between the words to awaken you! My silence awakens you. My words silences you. Remember this one truth. Put more energy and more attention to catch the gaps between my words. Catching the silence between the words - let that be your 1st priority. Let that become your 1st priority. Then, naturally words also will go inside. That is okay. But let the catching the silence become your 1st priority. So, during the morning satsang, no need for ajapa japa. In the 108 unclutching definitions, I have given a clear definition: when your consciousness repeats itself continuously without interruption, the ajapa japa of your consciousness is unclutching! In the morning satsang, let that unclutching, the Upanishad happen. In the day time, in the other time, when you are in your regular activities, those moments, use for ajapa japa. Let you then always be in ajapa japa. Let the morning satsang time be just imbibing the eternal silence in you. Q: My parents disapprove of my career choice. How can I do what I want but also keep a happy relationship with them? Is it even possible? - Siddarth, Bangalore. Swamiji: Siddharth, if you want my honest answer, the parents need to understand kids should take the risks in their life. Parents are expected to be a safety net when the kids take the risk, not the stopping nuts. A real father or mother should not be continuously a stopping nut - 'don’t do', 'don’t do', 'don’t do', 'don’t do'. This song of don’t do, don’t do. Come on, if you are a parent, if you feel you child is taking a risk, your son or daughter is doing something on their own in their career choice or anything related to their life’s decisions – many time about job, marriage, love affair, so many things. Don’t constantly sing this song of don’t do. I tell you, when you are not letting your child to take some risks in their career, you are completely destroying the self confidence and understanding and responsibility of that child. Your son or daughter, their way of responding is always taking responsibility. See when a child grows, it'll try to taste everything. Anything it sees. I remember very clearly, when I was growing up. It is a village house where I was born and brought up. They will paint that village lime. I still remember, I'll apply that lime as vibhooti in the morning and put little in the mouth and taste. It will be very tasty. Child tries to taste everything. That is the way it starts growing. You give a toy- it will put in the mouth. That is the way it knows how to feel it. Same way when you grow up, you try to experiment with things. When the parents start singing the 'don’t do' song, the possibilities of the children is completely destroyed. One thing I neither heard in my life, nor ready to listen in my life is 'don’t do'. I neither heard from my parents, nor ready to listen. This 'don’t do' - parents need to understand, you need to give a space for your kids to experiment, to play with life. If you really have concern, be a safety net, take care even if they fall, they are not damaged, you are there as a support. That is the responsibility of parents. The problem is, nowadays the parents have started behaving like a business - If you do this way, then I am there with you, if not, forget about me and my support. It is more or less blackmailing. For that you don’t need a father or mother. For blackmailing, your boss is enough. Your boss will do that job. Why then the father or mother? Parents are expected to play the role of safety net when the kids take the risks, when the kids try to do something extraordinary, something new which you neither have the guts nor have a brain to try. No, it is true. Many times. Why you are a parent? Because you are old enough, means your blood is cool, your creativity is gone, practically you are interested in just maintaining whatever is there and retiring into the safety net or safe zone. Why are you putting this same thing on your child who is trying to experiment various components of life, various experiments of life? I have created a beautiful bouquet of life, life philosophy for myself. I tell you - O modern youth, if you want to stop the nervous breakdown happening in you, understand, very intensely the nervous breakdown is happening to modern youth. If you want to avoid the nervous breakdown, which causes 3"D" – depression, drug, death, not only that, many other neurological disorders, even for health reasons, I tell you, give a big 'No' to all these “isms” - capitalism, communism, socialism and all religions, all economic beliefs, all social systems. Just say no to it. Travel for one year to different parts of your country. If you are in Bharat, you don’t need to go around different parts of the world. Different parts of the country is enough. Bharatn is a miniature of the cosmos. Every 100 km you will have a different thought trend, way of living, dressing style, eating style, different religion. You have such a rich country. If you are from other parts of the world, travel to different countries. If you are from Bharat, travel all over Bharat. Try to say 'No' to the concept of money taught to you by society. Try to drop every concept taught to you by society - security, insecurity, love compassion, whatever, even the ideas about God, Guru, everything. Drop everything taught to you by society. Try to travel. I tell you, you will create a beautiful new life philosophy for yourself. That new life philosophy which you create for yourself will be so strong, so solid. You will discover life. See, if this light is discovered by somebody, you don’t need to re-work. It is matter, dead matter. If somebody else discovers, you can use it. But, in life you cannot use somebody else’s discovery. You need to discover. Only your discoveries will help in your life. This is such a strong teaching. All these so called parents get shaken. They say 'don’t go to Nithyananda'. Why? - he will make you intelligent, which is too much risk. World cannot handle too many intelligent people. Because, the more fools, you have more clerks, more IT engineers. All that foolish things you do. I am not asking you to take those risks, that is like trying to live on your adrenaline. No. Lifestyle risks – risks in your thought process, risks in creating the philosophy of your life, risks in rediscovering your life. So understand, youth should rediscover their life by taking various risks and new responsibilities, and parents are expected to support, be a safe net, if not, at least don’t be a hindrance. Next question. Q: In my office there is a lot of gossip happening. I don’t want to be a part of it. But, if I don’t participate I feel like I won’t be successful with my boss. What should I do? -Rachel, australia Swamiji: Rachel, immediately change your job. Even if you are successful with this boss by becoming part of the gossip, you will be a failure in the life. Don’t do this compromising. If you compromise and become part of that gossip group, you may be successful with your boss, but you will be a failure in your life. In your life itself, you will be a failure. Better change the job. This gossip in the work place.. One day the boss was telling the same joke and the whole team was laughing as usual. Only one person did not laugh. Boss asked 'what happened? you did not laugh for my joke?' He said 'no, I found another job'. That is the exact situation you are in. Understand, if you have to do gossiping or becoming part of a gossip to be successful with your boss, I think your boss is not worthy of you. Understand, make a clear decision. Just because he has some money to pay you, he should not be boss for you. He should have little charisma also to add to your life. He can add only money to your life, he should not be your boss. He should have little charisma also to add to your life along with money. Only then he has the right to be boss for you. All the fellows who can pay salary to you should not be boss for you. Then your life has nothing other than money? No. you have a taste, you have a culture, you have possibilities, you have options, you have your 'yes-es' and you have your 'no-s' in your life. So I tell you, if you are with a boss who can add only money to you, nothing else, I tell you, your life will become cheap, too cheap. Be with a boss who can add charisma to you. Who can add many other dimension to you. Who has something other than money, something more than money to add to you. If you have to become a part of a gossip team to be successful with your boss, I cannot understand. There are some Gurus who just need 2-3 people go on sit and talk whole day. Nothing else is required. They just sit and go on telling some stories. And people have to sit and listen. If you have to become part of the gossip group to be successful with your boss I think you are in wrong place. I have a small clipping from youtube, I will show you - 'how to stop the office gossip'. \<Short video clip is played on screen\> I tell you it is a very powerful technique to stop the office gossip, so I call this as 'gossip Kriya'. Nithya kriya for gossip problems. We will call it as Nithya Kriya for stopping the office gossip!