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Bidadi

“Sadashiva samarambam, Shankaracharya madhyamam asmadacharya paryantam vande Guru paramparam!”

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We will enter into today’s Satsang. Start the questions.

1. My husband has anger issues. And now I am seeing the same thing in my sons. How do I help them deal with this? – Rekha, Mysore.

Rekha, first thing you need to understand - anger is neither positive nor negative. Anger is like money. It depends on how you handle it, how you use it. Understand, any emotion - whether anger or lust or greed or fear - any emotion is like money. For example, if somebody does a 10 rupee job, you will not pay him 1000 rupee. If you are paying him thousand rupee, you will become bankrupt very soon! Same way, if somebody does ten rupee worth of mistake, don’t pay him with thousand rupee worth of anger! If you are paying more anger, again you will become energy-corrupt. Understand, when you pay more money than the work they have done, you become bankrupt. When you pay more anger or more energy than the situation required, you become energy-corrupt! I tell you, whether it is anger, lust, greed, fear, whatever it may be, when you pay more than the worth, you are energy-corrupt. If you are trying to fight with these emotions, you will only end up in suffering and suppression.

Rekha, I tell you - first thing, you be educated. You be educated about the anger. You have the right education. Then try to educate them. Please understand, a husband never learns from wife, a son never learns from father. Only reason they never learn is that they don’t trust you or really feel that you mean good for them. Rekha, first thing you need to do is, understand about the anger, internalize it. Second, start contributing in some way to their life. Please understand, when you work with others, ask yourself first thing - how can I contribute and make a difference in the other’s person’s life? Go with this attitude. Look at your husband’s anger issue as a sickness, don’t look at it as ego or arrogance. Look at it as sickness, a disease. Don’t label him with this one pattern, one habit. Separate the pattern from him. Then it is easy for you to handle.

First thing, you need to internalize about your own anger; second, label his patterns clearly, not him; third, approach him with attitude, how can I contribute and make a difference in his life. Unfortunately, you don’t approach with this attitude. The whole approach is such that he also knows you are attacking him, you also know you are attacking him. I tell you, through attack, anger can never reduce. It only increases and breaks. Through attack, solution can never be found. It is only found with this one great truth - how can I contribute and make a difference in somebody’s life? I tell you, this is the only difference between Buddhism and Hinduism. This is why Buddhism still keeps flourishing, is still a living stream of enlightened masters. I have seen enough of leaders in Hinduism and Buddhism. If I am given a chance, I would love to take a body in the Buddhist tradition. Please understand, this time I assumed the body in Hindu tradition because I wanted to revive the Hindu tradition, I wanted to infuse life into this great tradition. But it is Buddhism which is keeping more number of Sadhus, enlightened beings alive. The only difference is this one attitude - how can I contribute and make a difference in somebody’s life? Unfortunately, we neither understood nor practiced that as our lifestyle, that as a part of our life’s truth. See, there are at least 20 traditions that came out of the original Vedic source, the original Vedic thought trend - Jainism, Buddhism, Sikhism… All these religions, all these other traditions fortunately kept alive this concept of how can we contribute and make a difference in the other’s life. Unfortunately, we missed it, very badly we missed it.

Approach every human being with this one attitude. Just this one attitude, nothing else. Rekha, approach your husband and your sons with this one attitude. First of all you need to understand. Unless you have the right understanding about anger, you cannot contribute. After you understand, approach them with this attitude. Your way of approach, way of talking, your body-language, everything will be different if you have just this one attitude. Go with this attitude Rekha, you will be successful. You will be successful, because every person’s innermost intelligence is alive, awakened, intuitive enough to recognize the help coming from outside, help coming from somebody. Human beings are intuitive enough to understand the help coming from the master, from the other person, from outside. When you are working with your husband with this one attitude, you become master to him. Those few moments, the master’s very energy flows through you to them. They will not be able to resist. They will transform.

2) My spouse and I argue a lot. How will this hurt our children? What can we do to avoid hurting them? – Christie, Germany

Christie, first thing: this arguing is nothing but unable to come to terms with the other person. It is not that you are unable to come to term with the situations. No! Understand, you are not able to come to terms with the other person. That is why you are writing, my spouse and I argue a lot. Means what? Whole day you are arguing, nothing else!

Somebody came and told me, Swamiji, I have lot of problem with my wife. I asked, what does your wife do? He said, she is a lawyer Swamiji. I asked, does she go to court? He said, No, she does all her arguing in the house itself! Continuously your houses are running like courts! Arguments go on and on and on. I tell you, argument is nothing but not able to accept the other person.

You are asking, how will this hurt our children? I tell you, it is going to bring tremendous damage, hurt on your children. BIO-See, one great thing happened in my life is, I have never seen my father abusing my mother either verbally or physically. Of course he has never abused physically; very rarely there will be some verbal fights. But he will always make sure it never happens in front of us. Even if there is some verbal arguments, it was never ever in front of us, in front of me. I tell you, I still feel grateful to my father for this one thing. See, now I came to know they used to have verbal arguments. But my father never ever did it in front of us. Just because of that, I can see very clearly, how beautifully my inner space got built and how much of respect I have for both of them. See, respect for the parents means respect for the 1001 good things they taught you. My respect for parents and the 1001 good things they taught - this was what gave me the courage to break the parental conditioning.

When kids see both of you fight, parents fighting, they lose trust on life, and their risk-taking ability is broken. They are put in the fear psychosis of oh, if I don’t behave, I may not have a place here. To run a home, you need to give a complete safe and secured feeling. Christy, you are not an enlightened master where you can create tremendous security, and at the same time give courage to people to face their fears. Christy, you cannot do that job. Be very clear. Your fighting creates tremendous insecurity in kids. Either you should understand and accept the other person, or at least till that time, don’t argue in front of the kids. Don’t argue in front of the kids. Stop that. Have this one attitude which I was telling about earlier - how can I contribute and make a difference in my husband’s life, in my kids’ life? You will be established in tyaaga. You will become Sita! You will be established in tyaaga.

This Rama Navami - Rama’s birthday - I took a vow. Whoever comes in my breathing space, I will give something to them. I have decided, either something physical like fruits, prasaadam or something, or the spiritual energy. I have programmed myself - whoever comes in my breathing space will be given something. Something will be given to them. Just decide, whoever comes in your breathing space, you will contribute something to them and make a difference. Make this as a vow, make this as an understanding, make this as a life. I tell you, it really, really, really transforms your whole life. It just transforms your whole life.

Children experience incompletion with life itself when they see parents fighting. Please understand, when they see parents fighting, they lose respect for life and they experience incompletion with life itself! See, when they feel incomplete with the father or the mother, when they carry the wound of seeing both of them fighting, they carry so much of incompletion. And when they see both of you sharing beautiful love, they feel so fulfilled, they feel complete and fulfilled. I wanted you parents to take the responsibility of showing deep fulfillment to the kids, fulfillment to the next generation.

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