Not just long time Part - 1

Q & A with Paramahamsa Nithyananda

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Q.1. How do we build the consideration of social return into every conversation and every decision at every level in the organisation?

Judie Smith, Paris.

Judie Smith, look inside. What is social return? It is nothing but looking at the life with the larger picture, understand, see if you build your house you call it as a selfishness, if you build the road you call it as social return, but you don't understand without the road, house is useless, so what is social return? Nothing but looking at the life beyond 120 degree. See 120 degree is the normal vision, if you look at the life 240 degree or 360 degree, that is social return nothing else, so don't think social return is some great compassionate sacrificing, serving, great selfless attitude. No, relax, first thing understand, thinking with the consideration of social return is intelligent way of thinking. It is intelligence which makes you consider social return. It is not morality, it is not religious quality, it is not ethics, nothing, it is just intelligence.

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Learn to look, every contribution of your life with the whole picture, for example if you are a manager in a company, try to understand the Whole responsibility of the company towards humanity. What this company is supposed to contribute to the humanity? Have the Whole picture and fit yourself with it comfortably. Have this same attitude in every decision, then naturally whole company will have this same attitude towards the society, that's it. Understand consideration of social return is not some sacrifice, service or ethics. Why don't you understand it is just intelligence. Many time you think consideration of social return is something like a you do a big service, favour. No, maybe you can use that word to market yourself. I call it Corporate Compassion new word I am creating. What is the Corporate Compassion you know, you shave his head, take his hair, sell that, and don't even give him little oil for the head and you say I shave you because only then dandruff will go from you. It's a treatment for dandruff and that poor fellow believes it. That is what I call Corporate Compassion.

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Please understand consideration of social return, the very word shows you are also from the pattern of Corporate Compassion, No, Compassion should be very raw, pure, innocent, I tell you raw, pure, innocent compassion is intelligence. When your compassion expresses in its pure raw form, innocently, it is tremendous intelligence. What do you mean by saying the word consideration of social return, no, the word seems to be like a big sacrifice. I tell you looking at the larger picture and working, considering the social return is a intelligence decision, it is not compassion decision. Judie Smith the whole organisation, your whole organisation need to understand, please understand decision of your intelligence, not the decision of your heart.

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Please understand decision of your intelligence not the decision of your heart. Because you think, it is decision related to heart, you still have oscillation, no no should I do it or not do it, how much I should do it, how many rupee I should do it, how many lakh I should spend, no social consideration is the decision from intelligence, not decision from heart. The Whole, how this Whole, each company is a Whole which is supposed to fit in to the hole of the Whole. The Whole has many holes in each hole each company has a whole should fit in. How as a Whole you are going to fit with the Whole, a boss is expected to feel how he should be knowing the whole purpose of the organisation and the responsibility of the organisation, same way if the whole team understands the purpose of the organisation and responsibility of the organisation, that itself is enough. It is enough nothing else is required. Understand the enthusiasm, energy and experience of larger vision, larger responsibility itself is enough to make you do the decisions based on consideration of social return. You don't need to infuse compassion because intelligence itself will make you do every conversation, every decision at every level with the consideration of social return, you don't need to do anything separate.

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The next question is from Siddarth from Bangalore

- Siddarth, Bangalore

My parents disapprove of my career choice. How can I do what I want but also keep a happy relationship with them? Is it even possible?

Question: My parents disapprove of my career choice. How can I do what I want, but also keep a happy relationship with them? Is it even possible?

Siddarth, If you want my honest answer, the parents need to understand, kids should take the risks in their life. Parents are expected to be a safety net when the kids take the risk not the stopping nuts. A real father or mother should not be continously a stopping nut don't do, don't do, don't do, don't do, this song of don't do, don't do, common, if you are a parent if you feel your child is taking a risk, your son or daughter is doing something on their own in their career choice or anything related to their life's decisions, many time about job, marriage, love affair so many things, don't constantly sing this song of don't do. I tell you, when you are not letting your child to take some risks in their career, you are completely destroying the self confidence and understanding and responsibility of that child, your son and or daughter their way of expanding is always taking responsibility.

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See when a child grows, it'll try to taste everything, anything it sees I remember very clearly in my, when I was growing up, it's a village house where I was born and brought up they'll paint that village lime. I still remember, I'll apply that lime as a Vibooti in the morning, and put little in the mouth and taste, it'll be very tasty. Child tries to taste everything that is the way it starts growing, if you give a toy it'll put it in the mouth, that is the way it knows how to feel it. Same way when you grow up you try to experiment with things, when the parents start singing the don't do song the possibilities of the children is completely destroyed, one thing I neither heard in my life nor ready to listen in my life is don't do. I neither heard from my parents nor ready to listen. This don't do parents need to understand you need to give a space for your kids to experiment, to play with life. If you really have concern be a safety net. Take care even if they fall they are not damaged, you are there as a support, that is the responsibility of a parent the problem is........