Understanding Jealousy

Throat Centre. A throat centre. This throat centre is blocked when there is a non-alignment between the imagination… expectation you carry about others and the others expectation about you. Listen. Listen, when there is a non-alignment between your expectation about others and others expectation about you, that is where the jealousy and comparison starts. Listen, you may have a superficial jealousy, superficial comparison, very superficial like a… while you are driving in a Mercedes Benz, if a BMW passes by, a superficial comparison. But, those things does not affect you. The root jealousy, the root comparison which affects you, is the non-alignment of your expectation and the other persons expectation.

How many of you have in your life, the non-alignment between your expectation towards them and their expectation towards you, both of them are not in alignment. Then, you have a problem in Throat, throat centre.

Anyakara is what you believe and project others to be for you as per your understanding. Listen. These are all like a legal definition. Anyakara is what you believe and project others to be for you. In this example what I expect you for me and how I tell that to you. Clear?

For example, now I am expecting Bhagawan [name of participant] to build a temple in Dallas, so I am expressing it to him. This is My Anyakaara. He expects Me, should always honour all the words I utter and fulfil them. That is his Anyakaara about Me. Clear. But, now there is a non-alignment where I am fulfilling but he is not ready to fulfil. Clear? 😃 So his throat has a problem. Now, is there anybody who are not cognising? But, if he builds the temple and I don’t honour this time keeping or what he expects from Me, then I have a problem, I have to alter, transform and stretch. Clear? Here is a volunteer. Bhagawan… What that volunteer expects from Me... is his Anyakaara about Me. What I expect from him is My Anyakaara for him. Clear? If I fulfil his expectation and he does not fulfil My expectation, his Vishuddhi has a problem. If he fulfils My expectation and I don’t fulfil, My Vishuddhi has a problem. Clear? So always be stretching, fulfilling everybody’s Anyakaara with whom your life is involved. Clear?

Still anybody, not clear? Come on, come to the mic.

Participant: If you complete, that you cannot fulfil his expectation. Then…

HDH: Ah yes... if you complete it then no problem.

Participant: Then, no problem?

HDH: No problem. Even then, you are not expressing your capacity. You are integrated, but not authentic.

Understand, now you will see, you will flourish in your business, you will flourish in your job, you will flourish in your relationships. In everything you will see, because you have decided not to give up on you. Understand, you have decided not to give up on you. Understand, you saw the live demonstration of somebody opening their Vishuddhi Centre. When he said he will not, his Vishuddhi was locked. The moment he decided he is going to do, his Vishuddhi opens. So I tell you, not giving up on you and others, is the way to open the Vishuddhi.

Don’t give up on people; I demonstrated I don’t give up on him. I was very authentic with him. Even if he does not want to do, I did not force him, I just left it. But, I am not going to give up on him. I am going to wait, I will wait and see to it he realises sometime. When I carry that cognition ‘I am going to wait’, immediately, he realises… he realises. So, in all those moments, understand, my decision not to give up on you is the one which is pulling you up. That is the rope... that is the connection. Clear?

Now I will repeat, My expectation about the other person is My Anyakaara about him, the other person’s expectation about Me is that person’s Anyakaara about Me. When there is a non-alignment between this two, Vishuddhi has a problem. Who fulfils it, has flowered Vishuddhi. Who does not fulfil, has a collapsed throat centre. Clear?

In the Vedic tradition, you are expected to wear the six Rudraksha in your ears, because the ears which listened is honoured. It is called Sundaravadam, aaragatti chundaravadam, means if you have listened the Spiritual Truths, it has to be decorated with and beautified. All the communities which had the tradition of initiation, used to wear that. Brahmins, Vaishyas, the communities which had the tradition of initiation, used to wear that. How many of you have seen your great-grand fathers photograph and all he is… he was wearing, means your communities all have that tradition of initiation. aaragatti chundaravadam it’s called. So, now you are all initiated. All your ears you can decorate it with Rudraksha or whatever you want you can decorate it, with the sundaravada because you heard, you listened.

Listen now, whenever there is… Please listen, even if you listen, this will become part of you. When you are not integrated and in-authentic, when you are non-integrated and in-authentic with the Anyakaara you carry about others, that reflects non-integrity and in-authenticity in the Anyakaara others carry about you. Got it? Let Me repeat. Listen ... now, if Bhagawan is not… is not ready to fulfil My Anyakaara about him I am only responsible for that, not Bhagawan. Because there is some incompletion in My Anyakaara about him, there is a non-integrity and inauthenticity. So I have to take the responsibility. Here, fortunately the strength of My responsibility has helped him to jump out of the laziness and he committed. Now, this is the power of My Authenticity. Clear?

But, still I have few people who are not ready to fulfil My Anyakaara. For that, I am responsible. Understand what I am saying? Maybe somebody is not ready to fulfil My Anyakaara about them. Then I am responsible for it. Then in that Anyakaara… I am giving you the example. Actually I don’t have any Anyakaara which is not fulfilled, that is different. hmmm…. If I have... Clear? I am responsible. When you take responsibility for others inauthenticity also, you see a new energy flowing from your throat centre. A real Shakti… Shakti means taking responsibility for all Ashakti, taking responsibility for all powerlessness. Anybody feels powerless, if I take responsibility for them, then I am expressing Shakti.

How many of you feel why should I take responsibility for others? Authentically raise your hand. There is a beautiful place for all you guys - graveyard. No, I am telling you the truth. Don’t you understand life happens to you from others? Understand? Come on, the people who raised the hand, now, listen… Do you cognise life happens to you from others? The same team, raise the hand, do you cognise… see… the team which said ‘why should I take the responsibility for others’ raise your hand. Now, if you cognize life happens to you from others, raise the other hand also. Do you cognize life happens to you from others? So, how many have not raised both the hands? You, please come to mic. You have… You, all you guys drop your hands…

HDH: Ask your question. Don’t you understand life happens to you from others?

Participant: No

HDH: No, see what are the main relationships fills your inner space and your day-to-day activity in your life... Mother

Participant: Mother

HDH: Father, then, your Coach

Participant: Coach yeah

HDH: Then….

Participant: Friend Swamiji

HDH: Friend, hmmm….Then maybe little place for Me also… Ah… Ah… ☺

Participant: Yes

HDH: So, how many? Six?

Participant: Six

HDH: So, do you think without the decision of this six people, co-operation of this six people, you will be able to have fulfilment in your life?

Participant: Can’t say Swamiji

HDH: You can’t. Your mother has to fulfil your son dimension, the dimension you carry as a son, it can be fulfilled only by your mother, only by your father.

Participant: But she has different expectation Swamiji

HDH: Ah what I am saying, whether she has expectation or not, your fulfilment can come only if she is fulfilled as your Mother. See, she has different expectation we will work that next. Whether to complete with her or align her to your achievement or you will align to her expectation is secondary. But, do you understand, cognise, unless she feels fulfilled having you as her son, you will not fulfilled having her as your mother.

Participant: I won’t have that completion Swamiji

HDH: You understand?

Participant: Yes Swamiji

HDH: So, life happens to you from others… outside… You get it?

Participant: Yes Swamiji

HDH: Hmmm…

Participant: Yes Swamiji

HDH: I am your Master. So now, only when you feel I am a complete Master, I will feel you are a complete disciple, and I will be fulfilled in the dimension of being your Master. Otherwise, I can be fulfilled in millions of My disciples. See if I have one million disciple, I may be fulfilled as a Guru for all those nine lakh, ninety nine thousand, nine hundred, and ninety nine people, but not with you means, I am unfulfilled, still I have to sit.

Listen… You understand.

Participant: Yes Swamiji.

HDH: So, life happens to us outside. So, we can’t afford to say “Why should I take the responsibility for others expectation about me?” Or you can say, “Done, I am going to the caves in the Himalayas and I am not going to come out of the cave.” But, even then, who will give you food? If you just eat some fruits, and tree leaves, which falls from there, and leaves then you can think… Even then, you are… you have to fulfil the Anyakara of the tree, you have to pour water to it. All of you are getting it? So, Life enriches you, completes you, fulfils you, in outside, with others. You can’t afford to say, “Why should I take the responsibility for others Anyakaara about me?” Clear.

Listen. So, now, when you take responsibility even for others inauthenticity... for example, I fulfil whatever Bhagawan expects, even if he does not fulfil what I expect, I only take the responsibility even for he not fulfilling what I expect. This is the successful, a Leaders attitude. This is the leader’s mind - fulfilling others Anyakaara about you, taking responsibility even if that person does not fulfil your Anyakaara about him, is Leaders mind. This is Billionaire’s brain. I read a book “Millionaire’s Mind”. I give you the new book, new word, Billionaire’s Brain. Understand or I can even add one more word, Trillionaires trident, Zillionaires Zeal. I can add any number of word. This is the Trillionaries Trident and Zillionaires Zeal. Clear?

HDH: “Yes”

Participant: I have question Swami

HDH: Hmmm…

Participant: When you talk about leadership, there is also the component of collective… the Collective Consciousness of people

HDH: No

Participant: No?

HDH: Collective Consciousness is nothing but, your Consciousness is whether collected or not.

Participant: Okay

HDH: You think, I had a Collective Consciousness when I started the sangha. Barren land where bears walk in very easily and snake, elephant… this is a Elephant route actually, see, there is a small stream do you guys see, in front of the Chit Sabha?

Participant: Right

HDH: Which flows…This is a Elephant route actually, from Bannerghatta to the Bandipur forest. This is a Elephant route. And, still near this railway track, there is a Elephant burial, samadhi, Elephant buried. Because when the Elephants cross, they get hit by the train and die. After I came, there is a Elephant buried just near the railway track. Any of you have seen that? There is a small Samadhi built near the under bridge, near the under bridge, and a small stone will be installed... on which, I wanted to install a Ganesha, but we could not do because that has become a railway land. We are not able to install. So… forest, three thousand snakes were here, because the Snake Farm was happening here. When the guys, when they vacated, they did not take all the three thousand, eight hundred has escaped.

Participant: Wow!!

HDH: When I came to this land, they gave Me this information - “In that three thousand Swamiji, we are not able to vacate, eight hundred escaped, you are going to live with them.” They had a venom park here, they used to extract venom... snake farm here. And when they donated this land to us, they vacated; when they vacated something has happened, eight hundred escaped. They are all in this land. That is the way I was given this land. And thirty two borewells have been dug in this land. No water. Thirty two borewell... no water. When this land owner, previous owner donated this land to Me, this is all the informations he gave. Only the… you can walk and come in, you can’t come with… come by bicycle. Sitting here, I am declaring, this will become an International Organisation, the place where the Enlightenment Science is taught to the world - village boy, who don’t know English who can speak only his mother tongue.

Participant: Right

HDH: Did I have Collective Consciousness? My Consciousness was collected. That’s all.

Participant: Right

HDH: Nothing else is responsible for anything other than you... your pure will.

Participant: Okay… Okay

HDH: Please understand, I am talking a practical science. Listen, I am giving you the essence. Whenever there is a inauthenticity in Anyakaara, you end constantly comparing yourself and your life with others. You end up with the jealousy, hurt, anger, suffering, then you are caught in comparison and jealousy. Jealousy is outcome of deep innate violence you carry.

Listen, I am putting it in a better way. Please understand, when somebody expects something from you, when their image about you demands your expansion, you are not interested in expansion, the violence you have, you show towards them as jealousy saying “You expect this from me, come on, now I will expect this much from you, you prove.” Getting it? Cognising it? How many of you are cognising it? Jealousy starts to justify; listen, jealousy starts to justify, you not fulfilling others image or… listen, jealousy starts to justify you not fulfilling others image. Understanding? See, I will not fulfil what he wants from me because, he does not fulfil what I want from him. And, I will expand what I want from him before even thinking whether he is going to fulfil or not. If he has ten million, I will put it as hundred million I want from him. Then, go there and say… “See, he is not fulfilling my hundred million so I am not going to fulfil what he wants from me? Getting it? Cognising it? Jealousy starts as the justification. Clear? Then, it becomes a violence to declare your supremacy.

Let Me tell you, cognise. Listen. First – “Ay… You have ten Million, if I ask ten million you may give. No, no, no, no, no I will ask hundred, so you can’t. So now, because you are not fulfilling, I can justify why I am not fulfilling, why I am not expanding me to you, because you are not expanding you to me.” As a justification, jealousy starts. Then, you have justified to many people that why you are jealous, why you are jealous, why you are jealous. Your… you have justified to many people and many people have fallen, with your argument and they say, “All right, you are right, you are right, you are right”. Then, the jealousy doesn’t keep quiet, it declares, “Now, I am the supreme”.

Listen, for example; ‘A’… I say, “Eh… Give me hundred million, you are not giving. So, now I am also not going to fulfil your image, about me.” Then, this fellow, he says, “Yes, yes, right” he falls. Then second fellow comes, for him also, “I am not going to expand to you because you are not expanding to me.” Justification. He falls. So one by one by one, when people start falling, falling, falling, suddenly you declare, “eh, I am the most supreme”. How many of you are cognising it? Do you see in your life, in some areas, you have declared supremacy? At least one area, you have to declare supremacy to keep yourself alive. If you don’t declare supremacy, even in one place, you cannot tolerate you. How many of you are cognising me? Clear? Where you declared supremacy, is the root jealousy, suffering pattern with which you are struggling.

EXERCISE

Listen, look in and verify at least two situations that happened in your life, where you experience jealousy and used it as a justification mechanism. Means, “He is not fulfilling, why should I fulfil? I am justified.” Some way. And, look in and identify, write down, how this jealousy became a defending mechanism, defending you from your own inauthenticity. When you are not coming for morning Yoga, you say everyone is not coming, then, what is the wrong, nothing wrong, I also don’t need to come. This is the level of the human awareness.

I tell you, even the Collective Consciousness theory is nothing but your justification of jealousy, saying that, ‘everybody is like that only, I was also like that.’

And the third, look in, identify and write down how your defending mechanism protected your inauthenticity and how you declared supremacy of your inauthenticity.