“Being Unclutched in being couple!”

Being Unclutched in being couple! How to be unclutched? Actually if you are only able to be unclutched you will be able to be without friction. If you are clutched, you will not be able to be without friction.

I tell you not just as husband and wife. Even with body and mind. They are also like husband and wife only. If you just know how to unclutch body & mind the simple science, you will be able to unclutch from spouse too.

What man wants is diff and what woman wants is diff in a relationship. Man has to become woman and stand for what woman wants and woman must become man and stand for what man wants. Mind should understand it should become body and stand for what body wants and vice versa. Then samsara is sanyas. There is no such thing as something is higher or something is lower. Somehow we have the notion in mind. Samsar is samsar. One of the biggest practical problem humanity is facing from the time of Adam and eve till now. The moment eve was made of Adam’s rib, rift started! Remember all great things are achieved through effort. There is no short cut or route for understanding. It is the shortest route. No other way. Just decide for money how you need to work, same way for good relationship you need to work and be sensitive about the whole thing. Relationship is not a bargain or business. You need to spend time and intelligence in creating it.

In Sanyas individuals need to work and they will not have the benefits of relationship. So if you are interested in the benefit of a relationship, no other way you have to work for it. And if you cannot even work for a relationship you cannot make your body, mind and life in tune. If you cannot work with the visible partner, how can you work with the invisible part. If you are not able to work with the visible, how are you going to work with the invisible? NO. I can say working with a relationship itself is a saadhana. Maybe I will give this one word as message for my couples day this couples day message – Learn to be unclutched so that you can intensely lovingly deeply be clutched without friction.

The extraordinary joy of sharing love can become lifestyle for couples. It can become lifestyle for couples when you just know how to unclutch – where to put the boundary – where the other person needs you, where you needs you. where other person needs you, saying no to that you feel as you need you. both of these never clash. But it creates an imagination that it is the same. So you start building your identity based on saying no to other. You think saying no to other means saying yes to you. But you fail to realize in your ignorance that saying no to the other is actually saying no to you. Look in and you will realize that never Yes to other person and yes to you clashes.

You need to understand, know and remember this basic truth. Saying No to other person is not always saying yes to you. saying yes to other person is not always saying no to you. Many time saying yes to the other can be saying yest to you.

Look in, don’t handle your life with ignorance. Even if you have made the decision of marriage out of ignorance, don’t continue with it. The greatness of ignorance is it can end. Greatness of knowledge is it never ends and of enlightenment is it can never be lost.

I bless you all to end ignorance consciously. Blessings!