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If you have any questions about this: Self-doubt, Self-hatred, Self-denial – Please come! We will now move to the next sessions - How to complete this, how to get rid of it.

See, first half of the day I wanted to spend on right diagnosis of your difficulties and problems, then we will get into cure.

Participant: Swamiji, from Tiruvannamalai. I’m a filmmaker. My first short film, ah, was screened in many colleges, in Bangalore Film Society and it has been selected in U.K. Film Festival also. The self-doubt, the question is about the self-doubt. Lot of people started praising me for the quality of, ah, filmmaking which has been brought in. Then I pitched an idea to my fellow friends, those who were in the film-circle, that I want to make a film on you and, ah, I just give an idea. Ah, I don't know the reason behind their expressions. They were suddenly thought that I am not thinking properly. So they were saying that, you must be running out of ideas, that's why you want to make a film on him. No, I said, No it's not like that. Now I want to know, my first, ah, film which has been screened recently in Christ University for psychological xxx (01:53), the praise was very high. Now... and now the whole, ah, friend-circle, to some extent family members also suddenly think that, ah, I lost film-making skills though I am just one film old. So is it the outer image is too much impacting me or the self doubt?

HDH: No, no, no listen, listen! The inner image is not able to handle… Actually your inner image is very weak. You convinced others, but you are not convinced about you. So you are waiting for somebody to throw a doubt on you. Because you were waiting for somebody to throw a doubt, they threw and you got it. If your inner image is strong enough, you will not have a problem even if others are throwing doubts on you. Understand, it is you were waiting for others to throw doubts about you on you. The moment they threw, you thought, Yes, what...what they are saying is right, maybe right.

Participant: No that…self-denial is happening. I am not able to believe them. But only thing is, if whatever they say…

HDH: No, if you are not able to believe them, you will not have suffering. The moment, the way you say, I am seeing very clearly, you are already started developing self-doubt. It means you believed them.

Participant: You can say that some partly.

HDH: Not partly! Let’s be clear, actually. Understand, now all you need to do is strengthening your inner image. How to? We will see further. Just know the problem, that's enough. We will know the solution now. Anybody else?

Participant: I don't doubt you Swamiji, but I really love myself. So I don't know what to put in the ‘hate’ you see …

HDH: No problem. If you don't have a self-doubt, no problem. It is not that everyone has to have all the problem, no. I am diagnose...I am helping you to diagnose, but it is not that you have to have these problems. You may, may not have one or two, that is great. And if you don't have all three, great! Yes. Anybody else? Please come. Don't create a problem that you don't have a problem.

Participant: Ah, in my office Swamiji, all come to me with a problem. They get the solutions and finally they feel I am out of control or I have to talk less. And I talk because they feel the insecurities about the job. I had it, I got it from you and ah, I believe, that I have a job, I have a job. How I should, be in control or should not solve, solve the problem or not listen to them or …?

HDH: No, no, no, no. I think you should take the responsibility for what they think, what they feel. It is more like a their feedback about you is actually is you feeling about you. Look in. They are just verbalizing what you did not verbalize about you. Pick it up and learn. Getting it?

Participant: Swamiji, I have a doubt means doubt actually while handling the projects. See, I am not a communicator. See, some people they have a very good communications. They do something else and then tell. I am always a work-orientated res...result person. If I will give the result, I know what is the timings, how long it will take, what is the cost of the project, then that time [..]

HDH: And you should not say, now I heard you uttering so many statement. You should not say, you are not a communicator! You are a communicator!

Participant: The...there is actually then sometime now I am not able to come out of that [..]

HDH: No, no, when you have a problem: You use this shield, “I am not a communicator, that is why I have this problem.” But you are a communicator!

Participant: Then maybe that is my doubt. I have self-doubt.

HDH: That's all. Mmh.

Participant: This is, actually in this I have… I have a lot of sometime, I will be break my job, if continuation will be there. It’s a totally, the related to each and everything. Sometime it will break. That time I cannot able to get what is the, ah, next decision. That time I will be very too much doubts. If I go ahead, otherwise I will quit the job, otherwise I will go to some other subjects. These are all doubts will be created immediately, so many negatives. Then how to come out of that problem?

HDH: Again, I can say this is self-doubt. In the next session I'll be teaching you exactly how to come out of it. At least you diagnosed now, that's enough. See, here now I am going to... in this session I am teaching you only how to diagnose; solution is Completion. We will get into that in the next sessions. Mmh. Go ahead!

Participant: Namaste Swamiji!

HDH: Yes. Please use the mic!

Participant: Actually, ah, recently I used to talk to people from within. I feel what I talk is authentic, but people, what they say is, what I get the feedback is – ‘You are too frank’ – and, ah, that is one and another one is …

HDH: See that when people say you are too frank, maybe you think that is heroism. That aggressiveness of uttering words without bothering about others sensitivity; understand, it is not heroism. You need to know that. Mmh. And if you are waiting for others acceptance, it is again Self-doubt.

See, I am telling you, not any pride, arrogance or anything, straight from My experience, I am telling you: The people who attacked Me… I went through a big attack. People who attacked Me are loaded with money and Asia’s one of the biggest media-house, they attacked Me. They were able to convince everyone I am a bad person, but they were not able to convince Me, I am a bad person. That is why I won the game. I won the game, because they were able to convince everyone, but they were not able to convince Me. I am telling you: Others opinion, if it convinces you, you lost the game.

Participant: I am not convinced. But this one – second question I asked, they are telling me …..8:48…, but I am getting, I have some fear, because I am not..

HDH: Even that, even that.

Participant: But they are convinced I am not …

HDH: You are...you are already shaking.

Participant: Shaking! I am not convinced that, ah, what I have to do.

HDH: So that again is a self-doubt. We will work on it.

Participant: Thank you!

HDH: Now, please listen. This self-doubt, self-hatred, self-denial, this is the source of all complications in our life. This is the source of all complication, confusion, even contradiction. Understand, see when your friends told, when you wanted to make a movie on Me and they said...they told you, you ran out of idea – you are shaking about it. That is why you are repeating it. It means, your doubt only they are reflecting. Everyone will see, to see whether you are having a self-doubt or not.

In anything, if you are shaking, please understand, only if you are ready to get shaken, anybody can shake you. And I tell you, anything can be shaken, will be shaken. It's ‘Law of Nithyananda’, pen down. Anything which can be shaken, will be shaken. It is your strength, your clarity. You not having self-doubt – that only will lead you to excel.

Same way the self-denial also – when others and you exactly face each other from the same point; you think you are a generous person. Everyone thinks you are a utter miser, and you will go on be denying to look into the reality, is self-denial. You may be thinking you are generous person, others know you are miser, worst miser, and you will be denying to look into that: That is self-denial.

Now, next few minutes, next homework, next assignment… Not homework… assignment: What is the best inner image you want to have? Means, how you really want to feel about you. If suddenly God appears and tells you: “My son, what's the best inner image you want to have? Outer Image you want to have, Others’ Image you want to have, Life Image you want to have, you tell me. I’ll just wave my hand – it'll happen.” What will be your request? Pen down. He may make it happen, who knows? So pen down. Pen down the assignment. Best 4 Image: The best Inner Image you want to have, the best Outer Image you want to have, the best Others Image you want to have and best Life Image you want to have. Please pen down.

Project this Ma.

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HDH: Yes.

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HDH: No, no, no! What you want to have inner image and as Outer Image. It’ll be sometimes, you may want to have both. Why do you want to have conflict?

Participant: \>\>inaudible\>\>

HDH: No, first pen down Inner Image. Then pen down what is the Outer Image you want to have. Then what is the best Others’ Image you want to have. What you want to have write.

It’s projected, please pen down.

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