Introducing You, to You!

If you have any doubt in what I explained - inner image, outer image, life image, other's image - in these concepts, you are welcome, please come to the mic; I’ll clarify your questions. I’ll answer your doubts. Mm, Go ahead.

Participant: Swamiji, only if I like to do the work I will do it and I’ll take my own time to do it. So, which category does this come to?

HDH: No, no, no, is this idea you're talking about you to others or you’re talking about you to you.

Participant: Myself

HDH: It’s inner image. Any other question you have? Please come to the mic. Go ahead.

Participant: Good morning, Swamiji, my problem is, in my eyes my problem is The people see, uh, tell me things about myself that is exactly the opposite of what I am. It's like I am a mirror of my environment and they see something about my mother, about my friend, about my brother telling me this, oh, you are this, you are that, but I'm not say this or that. I’m like a mirror. It’s my problem.

HDH: So, how, how it can be solved? We will see in the next process so I am happy that you understood the problem.

Participant: Thank you

HDH: Anybody else? Shall we get into the solution? Come on.

Participant: My humble pranams at your lotus feet. [Kannada w/translation] Swamiji I feel we don't need to bother about what certificate the world we live in gives us. You said we are part of this society so we have to care…

HDH: No, what I am saying. Tell Me. Do you take advantage of your family, means, they cook for your food. They give you protection. They give you a kind of a moral support, safety? When they give all that so naturally what they think about you, you are responsible for it. I am not saying you should be, you should feel responsible for the fellow who is walking in the street. You are not responsible for them, their opinion about you, but whoever is involved in your life, part of your life with whom you committed, who has committed with you, about their opinion you are responsible. Is it not? How can you say? You will have all advantage of them. You are here means, morning, they have given you food, they gave you this clothes and they gave you the vehicle to come here. So your family is supporting you in whatever you want to do. When you take advantage of them so naturally you are responsible for what they think about you. See, you may not be responsible for what somebody who is in the street thinks about you. You don't need to be responsible; but whoever is part of your life.

Participant: Whether my life should depend on their comments, like that.

HDH: No, no, no. Comments.. listen, comments are different, feeling responsible for their understanding about you is different. There are some people who will be creating comments just to give you pain. But there are very sincere perceptions about you by many people about which you need to be responsible. Understand what I am saying?

Participant: Then I get. I needed to be corrected or correct them.

HDH: You have to be responsible. I am not saying you need to correct you or correct them. Sometimes they need correction. Sometimes you need correction, but there is correction required. If you understand that much that’s enough. Clear.

Participant: Thank you swamiji

Participant: Swamiji, I have got a lot of doubts, means, actually I am also working as a project head, maybe around five hundred people they are working with me. Whenever I have that project requirement is there, thousands of ideas. Actually when I enter there, all the five hundred people I can give the job - that is my idea, i have got all these things. It’s all there, everybody happy which is coming out of the present everything. only one person put one negative, he made something nuisance or something that entire project it’s, whatever comes, If whatever everyday I am getting hundreds ideas, if 500 people they are working means, I have, each and everybody is to be target the project and everything is my part of work. That time if they say one person only one person will be complaint. The, because of one person see he made a …. shouting maybe is he say simply say like that he used to talk loose talk and all that, he will put it to the higher authority. They may take a negative action and then my entire all the positive thinking, everything, will be totally negative. It’s become my mind will be blocked. How to solve that moment I am not able to get anything.

HDH: This whole thing, one person if he is able to collapse. Then there is some pain point exactly where he put his hand. Understand?

Participant: I didn’t get the point.

HDH: So, no. If one person can collapse 500 people's work. Then there is actually some pain point where he put his hand; so do not blame that person and keep him out. Next time when you plan, have him in your inner Space and plan even he should not be able to break it. Plan it in such way. That is what is reinventing yourself. That's what is reinventing yourself.

Participant: Also because of only one small these things. We know very well what is going on. We’re getting the good result everything, weekly report and daily report, everything we are sending.They may feel someone maybe that these things they get something negative, then my total my body, my mind everything will be collapsed. LIke I cannot not able to go and fresh.

HDH: See What I am saying. You should not be collapsing yourself that quickly and how not to be collapsed, we will see in this session now. See the such… just one idea from your boss if it collapses you. You yourself may be entertaining something called self-doubt. Now I’ll explain.

Please listen. The inner image you have - like a what you feel about you and outer image you have - how you project you to others. Listen. The inner image you have and outer image you have - How you feel about you inside you and how you project about you outside. If there is a gap between these two, for example you go to your boss and you tell him, I can do this, I can do that, these, these, that. Finally you convince him. You come back to your house and in your home you are sitting and thinking. You have convinced about you to him, but you are not convinced you can do that. How many of you experienced this? Raise your hand. That is where the doubt about you starts. Not only with boss with anybody, anywhere - customer, client, spouse. You have convinced others about you. But you are not convinced about you. This Gap Where self-doubt starts.

Next, The gap between outer Image - how you project you to others and others image - how others perceive you. For example, you project yourself as very humble person and the others feel see, see, see, how he's acting. Your question, ma. This gap you will feel you are not enough, you are not sufficient. This gap makes you feel, start feeling the self hatred. Third, others image - how others feel about you and life image - how you feel about others. This Gap. See it's like a - how others feel, every one feels, you should change and listen to them. But you feel everyone should change and listen to me, everyone is wrong; others feel you are wrong, you feel everyone is wrong. This gap is what I call self-denial - constantly denying yourself and saying denying your possibility and saying you are right, others should change. But others are saying you should change. Self-denial. It's like a self-doubt, self-hatred, self-denial. SDHD like ADHD, SDHD.

Listen. This conflicts between inner image-outer image, outer image-others image others image-life image - this conflict is SDHD, self-doubt, hatred, denial. How it starts, how we can complete with it, we will see now. Let's spend few minutes and see, when you project yourself in some way when you think you are somebody, you project yourself in some way, others are convinced, but you are not convinced; then starts self-doubt. I will give you this assignment sheet, spend few minutes intra-analyzing, on how the self-doubts happen in you; self-hatred happens in you; self-denial happens in you. We will work on it.