Others are your Extension!

See, from the time immemorial, last 10,000 years or 20,000 years, always people who want success, Enlightenment, best things of life, knowledge, came here; came to this very place we are sitting, the banks of Ganga. So from the ages this river was a, not just a river of water, river of knowledge for us. Ganga was always associated with knowledge and completion. Ganga’s advent into the planet earth itself is for completion. The devatas, ancestors were incomplete; to complete them only, ah, Ganga was brought to planet earth.

First, I wanted to spend few minutes answering your questions. Whatever questions you have, from whatever we learnt from the day 1. See, now 4 days over; so many concepts I explained, gave it to you as experience - like, a authentic listening, completion, root pattern, inner image, outer image, life image, so many words, so many way of new thinking, so many new understanding, clarity I have shared with you all. So whatever questions, doubts you have, I’ll first complete them, then enter into the next step, because the whole program is experiential.

See, everyone wants to the, wants to change. Everyone wants to grow. Everyone wants to develop themself. But, as long as you are talking in the language of development, whether you succeed or fail, you will be struggling. Understand, when you want to develop your life, whether you succeed or fail... for example smoking. You stop smoking, by then office there is some problem, you are attending to that. By then in the house everyone is complaining you don’t spend time with them. By then your wife is demanding some attention. Then some new investor is not giving you the money. By the time you attend one by one, one by one, one by one, develop, develop, develop, come back. Before even you know, you will be already again smoking!!

Development, the language of development is always struggle. It is not development - completely transforming, rewriting your future - this whole program is not about personality development. I am not helping you to develop yourself. I am helping you to rewrite your future - Rewriting your whole thinking.

Understand, that is the difference between any other personality development program, life management program. I am neither asking you to develop nor helping you to manage. No. All management programs are damagement programs. 😃 All development programs only teach you how to struggle. You will be successful in one thing, failure in another thing, but you will be struggling. Whether you succeed or fail, see, even if you succeed in dropping the smoking, then you will be struggling with alcohol.

So, this development model itself is a failure model. First thing you need to know, the ‘Inner Awakening’ is neither a personality development program nor life management program. It is rewriting your future. Getting it? Rewriting your future. So, every basic truth you received, should go into your blood, your bone marrow - should be living in the form of Completion, should be expressing in your thinking, in your feeling, in your cognition.

So tell Me, any questions you have. Yes.

Participant: Swamiji, if the pattern of sleep is broken, and we come back home and again we sleep longer, and we make ourselves a little bit more lazy than here. Ah, is this laziness going to cause for more incompletions to arise again?

Swamiji: I can say, just the sleep does not cause more incompletion, but if you avoid any commitment because of sleep, that is going to cause incompletion. See, for example, you have not committed to anybody that you are going to get up morning and do yoga. Then even if you sleep, it is not incompletion. But if you have committed, “I am going to get up morning and do yoga,” then if you are not coming, you are sleeping, that is going to be incompletion.

Understand, nothing is incompletion, as long as it does not affect your commitments. When your commitments are affected, only then incompletion begins. Your, it is the, you see, neither a habit nor a act can lead to incompletion, only interfering with your Integrity can lead to incompletion. That is why the Integrity is used as a, one of a powerful tool to train our Consciousness, to evolve our Consciousness, to transform our Consciousness.

See for example, if you maintain certain level of integrity.... For example, the sleep, the same example I am taking. You integrate, with integrity you commit, “now from tomorrow, 5 o’clock I am going to do yoga.” You commit with yourself or somebody. If you maintain that Integrity, suddenly when there is a big problem in your office, if you declare to yourself with your Integrity, “I am declaring, this problem will disappear”, it will really disappear. Because every commitment you make and follow it, becomes a unique power inside you. That’s a power you accumulate. Understand,

Participant: The commitment inaudible Any form of commitment we follow?

Swamiji: Any form of commitment. You see, more than the commitment, you standing by that commitment. Understand? So any commitment, you stand by it, it becomes a power in you. I have commited, that I’ll not miss any of My routine from last 2013, Jan 1st. Still I’ve not missed a single routine. If I am going to miss, I already complete it, means before itself I send the message. Otherwise still now, not a single of My class or program I missed it, delayed even by a minute. One day, when we were, I went out for a noon drive, afternoon drive, during the break, suddenly our car was stopped because Governor is crossing. I thought, “What is this? I have to be integrated.” The policewala suddenly said, “You can go”, My car can go; they allowed. And then later on our driver said, “If that guy did not allow us, we would have been standing there at least one and half hours.” My Integrity would have been disturbed, but because earlier I maintained integrity, at this time automatically the situation turned and it supports My Integrity. So be very clear, every time you maintain integrity, it becomes a special power in you. A unique power in you.

Participant: Every time I break my commitment I shouldn’t feel guilt and (..)?

Swamiji: No! You should complete. You are not expected to feel guilty. Guilt is again becoming powerless. See, it’s like ah, you become ahh, dirty, then what is the, ah, solution now, again apply more dirt!! The dirt is not going to wash the dirt! Guilt is not going to help you. Deciding to complete with it and be powerless, sorry, not to be powerless. Be powerful, not to follow into that space again. That’s all. Clear?

Mmh.

Participant: I smoke and its something that I have been trying to quit for sometime and coming to IA has taken me from 20 a day down to 4 a day and I still need to work on the 4?

Swamiji: Don’t worry. You’ll see by the end of next 3, 4 days, the initiations, you will automatically forget it. It is not that you will be struggling with cigarette, you just forget it. Mmh. Mmh. And after that you don’t even need to struggle with it, or remember it or drop it or have it back. Simply you will forget it.

Participant: If when I get home….inaudible

Swamiji: Yes. You won’t even be able to remember it. Because, see, consciously when you evolve, automatically certain dietary lifestyle system settles with your body. A conscious person cannot pump in so much smoke into the body, Ma. You understand, it’ll automatically drop. 😃

I think really it is cold.

Participant: So if you are going to break your commitment you say to yourself... inaudible

Swamiji: If you are going to break, you have to inform that person before.

Participant: What if it is to yourself?

Swamiji: Yourself.. at least tell yourself that, “I am going to break, I am completing with it. I am not going to follow this any more.” Do consciously, so that when you start some, mmh, commitment next time, you will have trust on you, that you will not break it without telling you, without completing with you. You will have respect on you.

Participant: Swamiji

Swamiji: See, all the commitments you broke with yourself, only creates self-doubt. The bunch of self-doubt is nothing but the, again and again and again the commitments you gave it to you and broke it, destroy it; that only becomes a self-doubt, bunch of self-doubt, and the self-doubt becomes self-hatred, then it becomes self-denial.

Mmh. Go ahead.

Participant: Swamiji, you mentioned that others are extension of you

Swamiji: Others are?

Participant: extension of you. Do you think others are

Swamiji: Mic, can you use the mic closer?

Participant: Others are extension of you. So my question is, ah, when I have to make a decision that involves others, then will I not deviate from what I really want, when I think others are extensions of me?

Swamiji: No, no, no, no, no, no. You-you, you tell me exact situation. I can guide you, how seeing others as your extension always strengthens your decisions.

Participant: So, my example that I want to give is, I want to settle down in the U.S., but my husband doesn’t like U.S., he wants to settle down in Bharat. So I have to make a decision, whether I have to settle down there or here?

Swamiji: No, what I am saying, what for you want to settle down, all those reasons, are you convinced about it completely?

Participant: Yes.

Swamiji: Then simply you will, you will enrich him with all those reasons. Understand, first, you complete with him all your earlier incompletions. Earlier many decisions you took, would have left incompletions with him. He would have been angry or against you. That incompletion only now he is taking revenge by saying, “No!” to you, even though he knows it may be right.

See, many time when the husbands tell their wives about Me, wives never come. Or the wives tell husbands about Me, they never come. They secretly come separately and see and go. But they can’t come with you, because, Swamiji is right, but you can’t be right. Swamiji is right, your hus, my wife cannot be right.

How many of your spouses you think are, ah, against me?

No! No, no, no, no! Actually, if you just keep quiet and secretly browse his, ahh, computer or book or anything, you will see, all the back history you would have seen My youtube discourse, everything, because they know Ma. Where the husband is going, where the wife is going, they wanted to know. Naturally they would have studied and they would have been hooked.

So, you see it is not, Swamiji is right or wrong, my wife cannot be right, my husband can not be right. So, if you complete those incompletions, and then listen to him authentically, then you enrich all the points how you are convinced. I tell you, surely you will have the right result. He will simply come with you.

Participant: Okay. But I am still not convinced Swami about ... if I think others are my extension, I think that I will give up what I want to do.

Swamiji: That is what, that is what I am saying. You see then you are basically, you think others cannot be part of you. Only as a independent selfish person you can be successful, which is basically a incompletion with life. You have to complete with that pattern. It’s a basic incompletion with the life. Understand, that pattern has to be completed.

Participant: So I only think it’s me or them!

Swamiji: No, it is not. Life is always win-win. If life is only me or them, it will be violence-based. The law of life is not violence. See, if it is violence-based, then only one person should be alive. Law of life is not violence-based. You understand, it is not violence-based. Law of life is always co-existence. It is a basic, basic pattern missing in you, I think

Participant: I am still not clear Swami

Swamiji: If you dig out your root-pattern, mmh, and complete with them, then you will understand, it is not that only when others are, ah, given up on you can live or you cannot be complete, if others also have to be complete. That’s a wrong, ah, completely wrong faith you have started believing, wrong pattern you started building. Understand, life is always win-win. You, alright, you try your best, saying that others, I don’t care about others, I will make what I want into reality. You will never be successful. See! You will not be successful!

See, there are some, there are some clear universal laws. Advaita is not just a philosophy or a theory. It is a simple universal principle. For example, if you get into the Ganga, you will be washed away by this current. The, especially with this current; whether you are a white, or a black or a westerner or a Bharatn or anybody. This is a universal law. You understand? At this, especially given this current, this water level and current... like that there are some universal laws. How much ever you try to deny them, you are not going to be, you will not be able to deny them. The universal law is, whether you understand or not, everyone in your life is your extension, your extension.

So, first thing: Complete with him. Second thing: You yourself complete with the going to the U.S idea. You may be having some incompletions and fears, still uncertainty and insecurities about it. You complete with them. Then, after completing with him, after your completion, then enrich him with that idea. You will see, he simply listens. When you carry so much of incompletion in him and in you, apurnatva in him, apurnatva in you, no. It won’t happen. When there is a Completion in him and in you, it will lead to completion.