“Man is suppose to achieve life, is born with potentiality to live, but…”

Man is suppose to achieve life, is born with potentiality to live, but it is his choice whether to live the life or live the Gradual Death. You can just continue to breathe, eat, sleep and die or you can grow in your consciousness, take this opportunity of life to be more mature. When you just breathe, eat, sleep and die, you are only growing old, you never grow up. You just grow old and when time comes you die, this I called Gradual Death, this cannot be called as a life because ( COULD NOT UNDERSTAND A WORD ), Gradual Death, because you just live so the time can be passed, you are living because still Death hasn't happened. It is one kind of Life, there is another kind of life, you take this life, you take this chance to grow you use this opportunity to be more matured, you use this opportunity for your conscious growth

When you use the opportunity of this life, when you realise your potentiality then you grow up. If you just breathe, eat, sleep and die, you only grow old. Only when you use this opportunity to become more mature, you grow up. Small example the Trees, look at the trees, if a tree grows 100 feet tall, at least 50 feet depth the roots go, tall tree cannot be managed with a small root. Root also has to go more deeper to the tree grows more taller, the height of the tree and the depth of the roots both should grow, only then the growth is total. In the life also if you are already growing, you should grow with the depth of your consciousness because your roots are in your consciousness. Growing tall means, growing in the outer world. Growing deep means, growing in the depth of your consciousness. Growing tall and growing in the depth of your consciousness both should go hand in hand. If you don't grow in your consciousness, you only grow old, you don’t grow up.

You have so many toys with which you started your life but unfortunately in a subtle way you continue to be with the toys, you don’t drop them, you don’t want to drop them. As a small boy, as a kid, if you play with toys it's beautiful, nothing wrong, nice. That is the way it should be but even after growing just imagine, if you are playing with toys, how ugly it looks. It is not child-like, it is childish. Child-like is different Childish is different. If you play with the toys even after growing it looks very ugly. Lot of times in our life, in many situations physically, psychologically we play with toys, we don't live the real life.

So many examples I can give, how we escape from life by playing with the toys. You pray to escape from the life just by playing with toys, just by playing with your dolls. Cunning mind, when it wants to avoid the life, it takes some method to escape from the life, to move away from the life. Let me explain the word “Maturity” then I’ll be able to explain how we are all holding our toys, how we are not ready to let go the toys. The young age when you started living, you need lot of dreams, you need enough of time and space just to dream, you cannot cope up with Reality because the reality is too harsh for you, you are too simple, you are too innocent but the reality is too harsh, to cope with reality is very difficult so you create dreams. Actually dreams acts like a buffer.

You know what I mean by the word buffer, between your car cushion and the wheel there is a buffer spring which protects you from the dangers of the road. Buffer spring protects you, protects your body same way in the life between you and the Reality you keep the dreams as buffer spring. Dreams act as a buffer spring. Kids you can see, they spend lot of time in dreaming, especially day dreaming they just sit and imagine something this that so they can cope up with the reality. To cope up with reality you need dreams as long as you are a kid. If you don’t stop dreaming, if you continue to have dreams to cope up with reality still you are immature.

The word “Maturity” means for me the person who has dropped all his dreams. The person who is able to relate directly with the reality without dreams and imaginations. This what I call mature person, whom I call mature person. Maturity means the person who can live the real life, who can face the reality without dreams and imaginations, a person who can face the life directly face to face who has got the courage to face the life face to face without dreams without the buffers without the imaginations is whom I call, mature person. The capacity to face the life directly face to face is what I call maturity. If you see your life in every step if you analyze your life, you can understand by yourself how immature we are, the reality is so boring, the reality is so disturbing, the reality is so depressing, we start living in our own imaginary world we start living in our own fantasies. The reality is so hard, the reality is too difficult to digest so we take up buffer which I call imagination, which I call dreams and start living in the buffer layer itself. We continue to play with our toys. We continue to live with our toys, we don’t drop them.

When you are young, you try to hold on to your toys. If somebody snatches your toy, you shout at them, you feel as if your whole life is taken away. I have seen the kids, when mother snatches the toys. They should “let you die, leave my toys, give it to me”. They even curse their mother telling her you go and die but give me my toys. Children feel, the toys are so important for their life. Toys are their life, if you see a kid, when you snatch a toy, when you take the dolls away they feel as if their life is being taken they weep, they cry, they make such big fuss because their whole life is invested on the toys, they do not know anything else except the toys. In your life also many times you invest your energy, you invest your life on the toys with which you living, if the children are feeling the car is their life, the toy car is their life, you feel the real car is your life. Of course, little bigger toy but nothing better, it may be bigger but not better.

You also feel so many times, your life is dependent on the things which you have. Your life is nothing but the things which you have acquired, you judge yourself based on material success, you goal yourself based on your car, based on your house, based on your bank balance. Kids judge themselves based on the number of toys they have. You judge yourself on the bank balance you have. Of course, we change the toys but we never drop the toys. Almost all of us, we change the toys but we don’t drop the toys.

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We want something, which can hide the reality and keep us in the imaginary world, keep us in the illusory world, keep us in the fantasies. That is the reason we continuously imagine something, we continuously create dreams, we continuously fantasise. All our relationship are nothing but the toys, you may think you love your wife, you love your husband, but if you look little deep, you treat them also as only one more toy, of course living toy, you try to keep them as a toys in your life and you try to possess her or possess him when you try to keep him or keep her as you wanted. The moment you try to possess him or possess her, you reduced her to the level of toy. Of course you can possess a furniture and keep where you want but can you possess a living person and keep where you want, No. This not possible, when you try to possess a person when you try to keep him or her as you want. You reduce him or her also to the level of toy and you try to project your desires on him and fulfill it she tries to project her desires on you and feel fulfilled. Each one is trying to keep the other as a toy in their mind to fulfill their being, to fulfill their desires.

There is a beautiful word by Abraham Barslo “Deficiency Love and Gift Love” wonderful words. Deficiency love means you need the other, it's a compulsory. Child loves the mother, child needs the mother, child cannot survive without mother. She has to take care of him, unless she takes care, he cannot survive. So he loves her because of the need. Most of the time our love is because of that need, it is Deficiency love, “Need love”. People fall in love because they don’t have love, that is the reason they ask the love from others. They continuously ask the love from others. They ask, they beg, they fight for others attention, others love. As long as you ask for love from the other person be very clear it's “Need love”. When it is “Need love” as long as it is “deficiency love, need love”, you try to possess the other person. You try to keep him or her as one more toy in your life. Of course, living toy, to whom you can put the cloth, the way you want she can dress, they way she wants you can dress. You can play the game of each others, to fulfill each others dreams.

But the play with toys continues. The play continues with the changed toys. As long as your love is the need love, the game continues. A matured man, a mature person never falls in love because he never feels the “Deficiency Love”, his love is a “Gift Love”. he raises in love.

According to me, the matured love means independently dependent. Neither he will be dependent on her nor she will be dependent on him both will have a deep synchronicity. It's almost like living as a one person, one soul in two bodies. You will have deep aloneness even in your living together. Even in your relationship you will have a deep aloneness, you will have a deep space of your own even in your regular life. because she will be respecting your space and you will be respecting her space. It’s almost like one soul in two bodies your aloneness will never be disturbed your space will never be haunted you will never lack of your space, you will be never exploited you will be never possessed you will be never sucked, you will be only showered the real relationship, the real matured relationship the person showers himself on others, showers himself on everyone, he never bothers, he never cares what he gets back, he never waits for a simple “thanks”, waiting for “thanks” even that is nothing but “Deficiency Love” he just pours himself on everyone, he just shares his person his being on everyone, when you really pour your being on others when you really express your being, when you really give yourself as a gift to others a deep synchronicity happens this is what I call matured relationship.

If your relationship is not matured, you are playing with the other, you are keeping the other as a toy, a living toy in your house, that’s all. You try to reduce her as a toy and she reduces you as a one more toy. Only a matured person can respect the other person as a person otherwise the other is only a toy.

Third in spiritual level how we continue to live with the toys. In the spiritual level you have a toys about the future, the toys of the future. Thoughts of past and hopes of the future. Hopes about the future and thoughts of past act as a toy. To avoid the present you live with the future and the past. The reality, the present is so hard you don’t feel like living it, it is not upto your expectation so what naturally you do, you catch some future dream and you continue to live in the dream. In the dream if you are sitting in the Benz, your mind is working on the Rolls Royce. If you are holding the steering of the Benz, you can be sure your mind be holding the steering of the Rolls Royce, because you cannot cope up with the reality without dreams and imaginations you continue to create more hopes for the future, you continue to create more thoughts about the past so that you can escape from the present. In spiritual level past and the future acts as a toy.

That’s beautiful thing to be understood about “the cross”. The cross is a beautiful symbol the horizontal line shows past and the future. One side of the line is past, the other side of the line is future. If you travel continuously between past and future you will be travelling horizontally. Your life is nothing but gradual death, you live just to die. You are waiting for death, it's a gradual death but if you are little intelligent if you come away from the past, away from the future and find your center which is present. If you bring your consciousness to the present you will find a new road, new space called “vertical line”. The vertical line is what I call spiritual growth, the conscious growth. Horizontal line is the worthiness, vertical line is the consciousness. Horizontal line is filled with past, the future, if you come to the present suddenly you see some new road called “vertical line” suddenly you see something new vertical, the new space, a different way to travel, different way to grow. What I call conscious growth.

If you come to the present moment, you will realise the vertical aspect, the vertical aspect is the “Eternity penetrating the present moment”. Eternity penetrates you continuously but only in the present moment. “Nithya” penetrates you continuously in the present moment. As long as you are in the past or in the future you cannot taste “Nithya”, you cannot taste “Eternity”. When you drop the past, when you drop the future, come to the present then you will see, you are able to taste a new dimension of your being “Bliss, the Eternity”. Because eternity penetrates you only in the present. The cross is the symbol of eternity when you leave the past and leave the future come to center, you find the vertical line, where eternity crosses the horizontal line when you realise the eternity if you come to the center of your being, if you come to the core of your being dropping the toys you will see a new zone, new space, new sky, inner sky, what Upanishads call “Chidakasha”, you realise the inner sky of your being, you realise the vertical dimension of your being you realise the new dimension ecstasy of bliss of your being, as long as you come to the center of your being as long as you come to the center of your life, you can never realise, you can never understand what I mean by the word “Bliss”. Enlightened people always say “Anandam Brahma……Nadyajamanat……..(sorry could not understand the word) Life is Bliss, Existence is Bliss, don’t waste it, but we always feel life is a suffering, life is a pain, life is pain, death is pain, birth is pain, everything is pain for us but for Masters everything is bliss, why? We move horizontally from the past to the future because of our horizontal movement, everything is painful. Masters they come to their center they come to the present moment they realise the vertical dimension that is why everything is bliss for them.

We walk, they fly. As long as you travel in the horizontal dimension you can only walk. Only when you realise the vertical dimension, you can fly. As long as you walk, life is nothing but suffering because roads are always high and low, walking means peaks and valley but flying is never touched by peaks or valley. Flying has no peak or valley as long as you walk you will have only pain after pain after pain. But once you come to your center, once you realise your vertical dimension, you will see every moment feels like a blessing, you just bliss out, you just flow through the bliss. From bliss to bliss you start to fly, let you drop the toys of past and future come to the present and realise your vertical dimension where eternity penetrates your being, where Nithya penetrates your present moment.

So let you drop your toys and come to your center and realise eternal bliss Nithyananda

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