“Paramahamsa Nithyananda’s morning satsang, Tuesday 20th March 2013”

Do you love yourself?

Paramahamsa Nithyananda’s morning satsang, Tuesday 20th March 2013

https://youtu.be/Su57Ome8Agc

I welcome you all with my love and respects.

Today I will expand on how the principles of life ‘Enriching’ can be used to expand your relationship with yourself and with others. Listen, this 4 principles are not my teachings. This four are THE teachings. If at all anything human beings need to learn on the planet earth as a first, middle and last, that is this four principles. Listen, this four principles are not my teachings. They are THE teachings. This 4 are the essence of all religions, spiritual groups, philosophies, sects, cultures, the essence of psychology. This 4 principles are THE teaching. Integrity, authenticity, responsibility, enriching.

They are not just my teachings. These four principles are THE teachings; any human being has to listen, learn these four the moment he is born, the moment he starts living, during living and before death.

Today I will expand on how the fourth sacred principle – Enriching - can empower you in the zone of relationships, how it can heal your relationship with you and your relationship with others.

Enriching is nothing but you taking responsibility with integrity and authenticity, committed to continuously expanding yourself and Life, in you and around you.

Your first relationship is with yourself

If you are feeling powerless in your relationships, be very clear, you will be powerless in your relationship with yourself. Relationship with yourself and relationship with others both happen from the same space. If you are feeling powerful, complete, in your relationship with yourself, you will feel the same powerful, completeness with others.

What is your relationship with yourself? Just look in; look at the ideas you carry about you. How many of you suffer a deep distrust over you? How many of you feel very deeply inside that you cannot raise yourself to a higher level? Understand, you need to enrich your relationship with you. You have given up on you! If you don’t consistently, continuously, enrich yourself and raise yourself to the next levely you have given up on yourself. If you don’t continuously teach yourself these four principles of integrity, authenticity, responsibility and enriching, not only you will give up on you, you will give up on others also.

People who give up on themselves are very dangerous, because when you feel you are anyhow going to be doomed, you will think, ‘What is there? After all I am going to be doomed. If I do this also, what is the wrong? If I do this also, what is the wrong? If I do that also, what is the wrong?’ There is no limit for your falling. You will see, consciously you are having a free fall. Like Bharatn stock market; just free fall! A few months ago, the way the rupee was falling, you can’t use that paper for anything..! That’s the speed with which the free fall was happening.

Listen, the moment you give up on yourself, you give up on others, and you are dangerous to you and to the society. Lord Shree Krishna again and again says, uddhared aatmanaatmaanam naatmaanam avasaadayet. Raise yourself by yourself. If you are continuously raising yourself by yourself, you are your friend. If not, you are your enemy. Listen.

Be ready to face your inauthenticity

You need to feel empowered, powerful, with the relationship with you and relationship with others. Tirelessly facing your inauthenticity, and aligning yourself to the responsibility, is the only way you can build relationship with you. If you are not ready to face your inauthenticity, who in the world do you think is going to face your inauthenticity? That is why everybody turns their face away from you. You continuously cry - everybody is turning their face away from me, nobody loves me, nobody relates with me. Arrey, there is so much of inauthenticity inside you, even you don’t want to look at it. Then why will anybody else look at it?

Only when I was able to feel completely comfortable with me, the world was comfortable with me. I tell you from my experience. When I was completely comfortable with me, even a poisonous cobra which was lying next to me was so comfortable with me. I tell you from my experience.

I was staying in South Bharat, in the deep forests of Tamil Nadu, where the stone quarrying is done for making deities. The place is called Karadimalai near perukaranai. Once it really happened: I was so comfortable with myself, I had completely completed with myself and completed with the whole cosmos. In that completion, I was sitting in Samadhi with open eyes. In front of me, at not even 2 feet distance, a big poisonous cobra, was lying, resting almost on my lap more than two hours. Neither I had the thought that this is a cobra, nor the cobra had the thought that this is a man. When I came down from Samadhi, I had the thought, ‘Oh, this is a cobra, it is poisonous, it can be dangerous!’ These thoughts started slipping, oozing out of my inner space. Then I could see, the cobra also had the thought, ‘This is man, he can be dangerous, he can kill me,’ and it just looked up, looked at me and moved away.

When you are complete with you, world will be complete with you. When you are incomplete with you, world will be incomplete with you. Completion with you is satori, completion with the world is Samadhi. Completion with you is pratyekatma chaitanya jaagrata, completion with the Cosmos is the feeling, the experience of brahmanyam bahuputrataam. Completion with you is inner awakening, completion with the whole universe is sannyas. You are clear with your accounts. There is no incompletion. Only in that stithi, in that state, you can say abhayam sarvabhootebhyo - I give refuge to the whole world. When you complete with you, your relationship with you starts.

You can have no vacation from you

Please listen, only when the relationship with you starts, you can have vacation in your life. Till then you may be able to book your flight tickets, pick the place of vacation, book your hotel, spa, food, girlfriend, everything, but you will never experience real vacation - because you are carrying you, with whom you don’t have a good relationship. How can have any vacation when you carry somebody along with you, with whom your relationship is not good? It is like trying to have a honeymoon just before the divorce! Any moment, the divorce may happen, but you say - come on, let’s just have one honeymoon before the divorce! Before marriage you can have bachelor party; before sannyas you cannot have bachelor party, because the mood of the sannyas, the space of the sannyas, will not be asking for bachelor party. If it is asking for bachelor part, the sannyas cannot happen. Same way, before divorce you cannot have honeymoon. If you are asking for honeymoon the space is not there for divorce. If you are asking for divorce, the space is not there for honeymoon. If the relationship with you is not complete, if it is not healed, if it is not settled, you can never have vacation in your life. You can do everything possible, but you will be just suffering with you, you will be just struggling with yourself.

Only when you have healed relationship with you, only when you can trust, you can raise yourself by yourself, you can save yourself by yourself; you can relax in your life. When Buddha says atma deepo bhava, appa deepo bhava; that’s his last word. He means, raise yourself by yourself, build relationship with yourself by yourself. Don’t give up on yourself.

Are you planning for failure?

Unfortunately you start the struggle with you with a clear plan of losing. That is why you start the difficult, losing war. When you start the war with you, you plan it in such a way that you play the losing game, so that you will never again ever try to raise yourself by yourself. You just give up on you. You pick up the deep-rooted patterns and start struggling with it. First complete the patterns which have not yet become deep rooted in you; patterns like irritation, agitation. But you start with patterns like lust, deep-rooted fears, addictions. Naturally, in a few weeks, you can declare yourself as a failure, and just coil yourself into the cozy comfortable zone where you do not need to do anything to raise yourself by yourself. Am I right?

First start completing with the deep rooted root patterns of sufferings; you will have confidence over you, you will feel responsible for you. Bring deep integrity in your thinking. Start the fight in the area where you are going to win. Use all your energy to realize these principles in your life, not to disprove this principles. You can prove anything or disprove anything in your life. You are the judge. You have the power.

As far as your life is concerned, you are the legislature, you are the executive, you are the judiciary, you are the media. You decide for you, you execute for you, you criticize you. You can either make something work for you, or prove that it cannot work for you. You can make or break anything you want. Use all your powers to prove these principles work for you. You can have a relationship with you only when you can raise yourself by yourself. Listen, I will give you the example; when you are debating about some decision, you are your legislature; when you decide, you are your judiciary; when you execute that in your life, you are your executive body; when you criticize yourself constantly, you are your own media!

Have the space to listen to you

When you start the war with you, you plan to play losing game. One day you say, I will break my drinking habit which is there for 25 years. You can break a drinking habit even if it is 25 years old, but only after having enough tools and weapons to fight with your mental pattern, to complete with your mental pattern.

If you have Krishna with you, you can win over any amount of warriors. In the Mahanharata, all the warriors on the Kauravas’ side represent the mental patterns. Krishna alone is enough. He will finish it off. But when you don’t have Krishna on your side, any struggle, any plan you try, will be failure. When you begin relationship with you, don’t start fighting with the bigger patterns. First start completing the patterns yet to be rooted in your bio-memory; you will have courage, you will have confidence. The relationship with you will first start getting built. You will have the space to listen to you. If you have the space to listen to you, your thoughts per second (TPS) will drop drastically, and you will be in such peace.

Complete with yourself to enrich the world

There are only two possibilities - either you are in peace, or you are piece-piece! You can bring peace to you or piece-piece to you. If you have Master like Krishna with you, you can conquer even Duryodhana’s sena. You have only two possibilities. First heal, enrich your relationship with you. Do swapoornatva, self-completion, by bringing integrity with you, authenticity with you, responsibility about you, enriching yourself. Bring these qualities in you as a first priority. You have to be simultaneously enriching you and others also. Only when you enrich others, it happens in you.

When you bring completion to you, relationship with you starts, enriching yourself starts. If you don’t have confidence - you can’t look at you, you can’t be with you, you are not comfortable with you, you can’t raise yourself by yourself – then who can be with you? Who else can look at you? Who else will be comfortable with you?

I tell you, in the cosmic constitution, the first amendment is - you should be taught to be comfortable with you. Man should be comfortable with himself. That is the first amendment in cosmic constitution; even freedom of speech comes second. You have freedom to speak with others only if you have freedom to speak with you. First start completing the patterns yet to be rooted in your bio-memory. Only when you complete with yourself, your relationship with yourself begins, only then can you begin enriching yourself. The essence of today’s satsang is: bring completion wit yourself and enrich yourself. When you enrich yourself, you begin to enrich the world.